A few weeks ago, I found alot of alarming sites in my spouses email (dating sites) and then I found a password to a myspace account....I went into the messages section and found that my spouse had been chatting with girls with veru inappropriate pictures, even saying things like "great picture". A few weeks prior to that, I found all these dtaing profiles in his computer history. when I asked him about it, he said the profiles were his friends at work, that he didnt sign up for the dating sites and that other people have access to his 'entertainment company' myspace. I know he is lying and he admitted that he did something wrong but did not say what. He became very emotional about it but did not actually confess to specific things but kept saying he is sorry for hurting me. Now, I can't even trust him if I try, I always think he is doing something wrong, I question him alot and he refuses to talk about any of it.
How do I learn to trust him again? He won't talk about any of it!
2006-11-16 08:00:41 · 8 answers · asked by lostandconfusedincanada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes alot to trust someone and when you loose your trust on someone dont expect to gain it over night or within the next few weeks. I would not trust him until he confesses what he did at least. Or you can gradually learn to trust him day by day to gain your trust back but if he is cheating its not going to stop, the best way to go about this is to watch his every moves and dont stop if you suspect he is cheating than you go for it even if you have to watch what he does and stuff. If you find him cheating on you than you know whats best is to find someone else but dont let him ruin your trust like that
2006-11-16 09:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't talk about it, then he's hiding something. His reaction to this is inappropriate. If he were truly sorry, he'd be behaving in a humbled manner. You deserve better.
If you really need to know, go onto those sites he goes onto and pretend to be someone else and find out what you need to know. You're better off having a friend do it for you because you're so emotionally connected. But if you have to go to these resorts, it kinda already says it's over and you need to move on. So far, it doesn't sound like he's EARNED or deserves your trust.
2006-11-16 08:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never want to reccomend divorce, but if you have kids, you don't want them finding this stuff on Dad's computer. He needs to want to earn back your trust, not just be sorry that he got caught. If he didn't say what he did wrong chances are he did something unspeakable, like actually meet up with someone. You don't want to be the woman that's at home watching Dateline's "To Catch a Predator" and see your husband there. If he's not willing to make it right then you need to move on.
2006-11-16 08:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him my answer. This is for him..........she should leave your ASZ. I'm sure she could get a man, who thinks she is all he needs and will treat her like gold. And will let her know that she is number 1 and their could never be anyone else, and will make her feel like the most beautiful women in the world.
Girl, my sons father acted like this, and i felt like i could never be beautiful enough or good enough. He almost sent me throught a front windshield when i was pregnant to let a blonde cross the road. He never even noticed when i turned heads, or almost caused car accidents. He till this day, and i dumped his ***, is alone, and has boxes of porn in his house. I feel pity for him. He lives in a fantasy world, where he thinks women have to be perfect, with breast implants, and fake tans, and bleached hair. He is the only person that made me feel so bad about myself.
2006-11-16 08:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by chara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't even acknowledge it, then move on!! You can't change a cheater unless the cheater wants to change!!
2006-11-16 08:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by CHatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word...time.
2006-11-16 08:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by DharmaAgent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should leave him. it is not propriate to seek company when you are in a relationship. and please dont trust him.
2006-11-16 08:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋