im 17 and i just found out im pregnant with my 19 y/o boyfriend. we have been together for a while n have thought long and hard about how we would take care of the kid n where we would stay n what not... he has 2 jobs that pay him very well so money wouldnt be that much of a problem... we would move to NY and split the cost of an apartment with my mom. my mom and my dad are dead set on me getting an abortion but i refuse to... i dont believe in then and dont think they are right at all. my dad basically said that if i choose not to get one that he will take him to court for statutory rape and do anything he can to me my like hell.. i understand they are worried that we wont be able to take care of the kid but we will do anything we have to raise this kid right and if we need any help with anything his parents said they would help.i dont understand how he would take the father of the kid out of the picture and make my situation even harder... what should i do
2006-11-16 08:00:15 · 18 answers · asked by lovin_you 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
In most states 17 is legal. As far as an abortion tell your parents to go to Hell. You might think about somewhere other than New York though. The price of living is astonishing. It sounds like your boyfriend is a hard worker and that's a good thing. You both are very young and the odds are stacked against you. That being said, lots of people have succeeded in the exact same circumstances. Follow your heart. Good Luck.
2006-11-16 08:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call child services and get imancipated. Splitting the cost of an apartment with your parents would be rediculous... your father hates your bf and this coming child, and you want to put them all together in the same home?
No. Besides that, NYC is crazy expensive.
You are old enough to be considered an adult in this situation, and since there are only two years between you and your boyfriend, and you have been dating since before he was 18, there is nothing that the state could do if your father pressed charges. Espeaiclly if you were imancipated.
Call child services, explain your situation, look for a job, and get yourself secure before moving in with your boyfriend.
Your father CAN NOT make you get an abortion, you have the LEGAL right to keep the child. In this situation the state would probably automatically suggest you be imancipated from your parents, and set you up with a social worker and anything else to get you squared away for parenthood.
give them a call right away. Avoid your dad until you get things put together.
Also, every state has housing aid, you can get subsidized housing where rent is based directly on your income. If you can only afford 120 a month, thats what you pay, and the state covers the rest. You can get your own place one the baby is here. A good social worker will be able to help you.
If you are already in NY state and can skip the border to vermont you will be much better cared for by the government.
2006-11-16 08:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very mature seventeen year old. If you think you're able to take care of the baby, then have it. I got pregnant with my first one at seventeen. I'll be 23 next month, I have 2 kids and one on the way. Don't let anyone convince you that having a baby is easy, but it is rewarding.
See about getting emancipated from your parents. You sound like a smart enough adult. If you need anyone to talk to, message me. I've been there.
2006-11-16 08:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by I_didn't_do_it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend would be in any trouble because you are 17. Shame on your parents for trying to convince you to have an abortion. Do they know the repercussions? If you want to have the child then go and do so. There could be places in your state that could help you and your boyfriend.
If after having the child you realize that it is more than you both can manage you should look into adoption. You could request an open adoption so you are in contact with your child.
Keep the faith and continue fighting.
2006-11-16 08:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well frist off ur 17 and ur dad cant really do much to u or ur boyfreind. so dont worrie. he is just trying to be an ***. if u want to have ur baby than do so. there r alot of places that will help u out and being a mom is not really that hard. its just differnt and u have to think about someone else every time u do something. i have two kids and u just kinda do it. its hard at frist and ur pretty tired but u learn to do it all. u will be a supermom. and dont let ur dad scare u for u know what u r doing is the right thing.
2006-11-16 08:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by jennine75044 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 17 make your own choices. If you don't want to have an abortion, then don't. You sound like you have your mind made up. I dont think they can get statutory rape since you are 17. Maybe he is just trying to scare you. Research the laws in your state. Don't let your parents force you to do something that extreme if you don't want to. You will only regret it.
2006-11-16 08:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by AlyssaLeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have no say in whether you have an abortion or not. Don't let their opinions affect your decision to keep your child or not. I personally think it's great that you are willing to have this child. It takes alot of courage but I think you'll be happy in the long run if you decide to keep it.
Maybe it's not the best idea to split an apartment with your parents. If your parents dissaprove of you keeping the child, the last thing you want to do is to live with them. Is there any way you can get your own apartment? I think that's what would be best.
Anyway, those are just some ideas. I hope that all turns out well for you, your boyfriend, and your new little one.
2006-11-16 08:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, to bad your of age now that you are 17 years old. Do not let your Dad make your decision for you. I am completely against abortion but that's neither here nor there, if you don't feel it's right then DO NOT DO IT!! It's your child girl and, you will be the one to carry it not him. And the whole stat rape thing, LMAO!!! tell him to bring it on b/c if you b/f makes good money you'll be fine..ok...BUt if you 17 that is legal now days...
2006-11-16 08:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by bootylicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say GO GIRL! Keep the baby! It's not the baby's fault, and it shouldn't be murdered just because your parents don't want you to have the baby. Besides, how can your father take ur bf to court, if you had voluntary sex? Like, what evidence does he have? He got his girlfriend pregnant? It happens all the time.....lol :) So good for you, keep the baby, and be a great mother! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-16 08:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty mature for your age. I think you've pretty much decided what to do already. Your dad can take him to court, but you don't have to testify rape. It's pretty sorry your parents are so set on an abortion. Good for you for keeping it. Hang in there. I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-16 08:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋