It seems that every woman I know complains about the jerks they are dating but when they break up with them they find the same kind of person. They claim to want a good guy, but they virtually ignore every decent guy they know. Why is that?
2006-11-16 07:54:27 · 22 answers · asked by gibs_neil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls want a nice guy, but at the same time someone who can hold their ground. You must be nice and respectful but show a little of the macho side also. Be self confident and the ladies should come ur way..
2006-11-16 07:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetchesta 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That actually goes both ways. There are also men who say they have been through a lot with women and they want a good woman and when they do get one, they treat the good woman like they do the ex. I am not sure why they do that, but I know if I was in that position, I would be thankful to finally find the right person who would treat me nicely.
2006-11-16 16:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women do want a nice guy but you need to have a little bit of a bad guy in you. You need to keep the relationship exciting or we will just get bored with you. I am always looking for a nice guy.
2006-11-16 16:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that they are looking for their dream guy, could also be that they don't honestly know what they want, could also be that they are just blowing smoke when they say all they want is a nice guy, or perhaps that nice guy is lacking some qualities they look for in mr. right. But it's not all women that are like that, some women would be thrilled to find a nice guy.
2006-11-16 15:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno some women work different , Me personally I look for the nice guy , because when I was younger I dated this guy that was a jerk and when I ended the relationship , I told myself I would never date a guy like Him again , and since then I have not , and I date nice guys , they are ALOT better
2006-11-16 15:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, dude. It's the story of my life. I remember going out with an attractive lady once.. we met at a social function. My buddy, who's taller, more built, good looking and overall, more charming..but not that nice to women, once they get to know him better, was the apple of this future date's eye. She was really gabbing it up with him, and once when he went to another section of the place, she followed him.. wow.. overall, though, he wasn't that interested. Well, I ended up asking her out and she said yes. I remember when I first picked her up, I noticed hesitation in her voice... well, to make a long story short, when I asked her out for a second date, she stood me up. That memory still stings, and since then, I haven't had much success with the fine available ladies. And I'll out myself here (no, I'm not talking about that type of outing..); I'm a nice guy, not a cunning jerk. It would bug the heck out of my conscience if I tried to become a jerk. Treating other people like garbage, especially women I'm drawn to...can't see that happening.
I think large numbers of females are genetically programmed to like jerks.. goes back to our primate ancestors.. you know, the bigger and more aggressive ape always got to copulate with the female of the bunch. Now, we're not asking to copulate and have kids; but the programming is still alive and strong in many women's minds. Honestly, many can't fight it and cave in.
2006-11-16 16:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by StantheMan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We want the nice guy, but since the bad boys are more adventurous we tend to go for them first as they are not as shy. Also it is to make the nice guys jealous and then they'll ask us out !! It's totally normal !If you're a nice guy don't worry your turn will come !
2006-11-16 15:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by La parisienne ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing I have figured out, and it seems to be true to me. Be the nice guy, its the best way to be, but you need to "force" yourself to be bad sometimes...just don't be bad in a way that will hurt her in anyway. This works much better than the bad guy trying to "force" himself to be nice, because the girl eventually finds out he really is a doosh. If you are nice, but kinda bad, the girl will be constantly trying to figure you out because they don't meet people like that....its intriguing to them. And if she has a bad day and needs you to comfort her, the normal you will always be there...but if she is being feisty, its ok to be that way back to an extent. Just don't be a pushover because seriously, would you like to date a piece of jello that wiggles at your every command? Exactly. Hope that helps.
2006-11-16 15:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cillosis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the whole bad boy thing. Bad boys are exciting. Bad boys make life fun. However bad only have a short shelf life. Then women figure out that you can't be with a bad boy for long. Then they go with the nice guys.
2006-11-16 15:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women want nice guys but they are so used to the jerks that they date that when they find a good nice man they don't know how to treat him because they aren't used to someone actually caring about them and their wants and needs and their feelings.....i was like that....i used to date nothing but jerks and i finally found a guy who treats me like a queen.....i wasn't used to it at first and he always told me that i better get used to it because he was gonna be around for a while.....so i finally got used to it.....and it was worth it... but anyway...i believe that women like dogs....they like a guy to jerk them around and talk to them any kind of way...that's why they continue to date the same type of guy over and over again....
2006-11-16 16:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by MoneR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋