How should I dump her?

Question

She is suffocating me, she's always there and because I had a busy day, I kinda ignored her. She went home and she cried. I don't feel anything for her anymore, but she is so dependent of me that I will feel awful if I would dump her. I didn't want her to suffer, so I waited for her to dump me, but she won't. I don't think that we can be friends, when we were friends, she was a secret admirer, that's why she hung out with me. How should I dump her without making her suffer? And no "It's me", please, it wouldn't work on her.

Answer 1

wow that is almost an impossible kind of break up to not hurt her but you need to sit her down tell her exactly what you just wrote sure she will cry but its either that or you stay with her until you cant take it anymore.....no breakup is easy even if both peopls think they shouldnt be together its going to be hard tell her you dont mean to hurt her but it is not going to work out and if you need anymore help just email me directly ill talk it out with you

Answer 2

What is so hard about this? No matter what way you dump her she is going to be upset if she likes you that much, just be honest with her, tell her that you just don't feel the same way about her that she does you, that you would like to be just friends but if she can't do that then you'll understand, be nice about it and tell her that you're sorry you didn't mean to hurt her but you don't want to lead her on either. It may take a while, but eventually she will have come to appreciate your honesty...if you make up a lie that doesn't make sense, she will end up asking herself why for a very long time. You might also want to tell her there is nothing wrong with her, but that you guys are just too different? hope that helped! and good luck

Answer 3

Well there is never an easy way to end a relationship. Unless it was mutual ofcourse. There will be no way around hurting her if she is that dependant on you as you say she is. You are just going to have to tell her how you feel. Let her know that you can't be with her cause it isn't fair to her. There is someone out there for her that will feel the same way about her as she does you. Let her know that you feel suffocated and that you need to be by yourself right now. Good luck...

Answer 4

hmm...sounds like you are stuck in a tough situation...

Well, I think you should do it in person, softly, delicately, but straight to the point. Make sure you tell her it's not her fault, explain her that you just don't feel romantically attached to her anymore and that "these things happen". Tell her you feel it's time to move on (if you do feel this way), and that you're sure she will find another guy because she's beautiiful, clever, etc....

If she is as dependant as you say, she will definately cry and suffer, and there's nothing you can do to prevent that.
Don't feel guilty...if you really feel this relationship is over, that you need to move on... there's no point in prolonging it.
Unless she has serious psychological issues, she will eventually recover from this.

Think of it as ripping off a band-aid: it will hurt... but if you do it quick (straight to the point), and gently...it will hurt less.

Answer 5

.No matter how you do it she will not take it well but i think it is the best thing you can do because if you do not you will hate her and that will be worse. Just be honest and tell her. and as for the answer above me do not listen to her because she is just like your soon to be X and she is desperate to hang on. Look he broke it off with her and she is still Obsessed. Just do it. being like that is why a lot of relationships are terrible. One is obsessive and the other is misarable and is afraid to break it off even if it is for the best. Sorry but that is the truth i have had bf like that and i am glad i ended them. That is no way to live unhappy. The longer you let her hang on the worse she will get.

Answer 6

I guess you can just be honest with her and tell her that she is suffocating you. You should have told her that she was smothering you when it first started to happen, rather than wait until you lost all of your feelings for her. But since you don't feel anything for her, you need to end it. Just tell her that you don't feel the same way any more and that she deserves someone who loves her. It will be hard for her regardless of what you say. Just be prepared.

Answer 7

hmm well personally as a girl, i wouldnt want a guy i really like, to just dump me right infront of my face. A good way to get something out is to write it...just like you wrote it on here. Tell her exactly how you feel, and tell her what you told us. She cant read your mind and she probably is sitting there wondering whats going on and why you are acting a little different. So...you need to just write her a note and tell her that this is the way you feel about things. Theres really nothing you can do about the way you feel so its not your fault. it just wasnt meant to be..

Answer 8

DON"T be a coward and wait for her to break up with you , thats even MORE hurtful, i had the same thing done to me, the guy just ignored me and treated me bad til i broke up with him, (he changed i didn't all of a sudden he didn't want me anymore) so i broke up with him, and he wanted me back a few months later, go figure, guys make us go through all of this crap for nothing, but anyway just be a man and tell her the truth

Answer 9

I would just be honest with her. She's going to suffer either way. Just be like "you are a great girl but right now I think I need some space." She will have to respect that....unless she is psycho and stalker material. lol. I hope it works out for you

Answer 10

You could try being honest and say it's not working out that she is smothering you. Three days of crying on her part and she will get over it... and just think of the lucky rebound guy who she will treat like a prince for a week and a half.