(by the way i am 14)
OKAY. so i have a friend who recently moved 3000 miles away from where i live.
I am very close to her and her family and her mother is a smoaker.
I love their whole family like my own and i realy don't want her mother to die of something like lung cancer. So when I read about this book (The Easy Way To Stop Smoaking) and how it helps you quit with no withdrawal symptoms at all! (I have read this in several places)
should i mail her mother the book??
Will her mother take offense if i do?
If so, should i tell her who sent it?
If not, why not??
2006-11-16 07:40:39 · 12 answers · asked by itsALICE! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I were you I wouldn't, a smoker has to want to quit and do it on their own initiative. She may take offence, she may not, depends on what kind of person she is and how she perceives it. But I wouldn't chance it!
2006-11-16 07:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Beth D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we feel very strongly about things, it is natural for us to want to take action. In your case you want to take action on behalf of your beliefs that smoking will kill your "mom". I would first examine any conversations on the topic of smoking that you have shared with her. Did she ever mention that she would like to quit? Did she ever mention that smoking was something that she really enjoyed, despite the negative effects? In close examination of these conversations you will find your answer as to whether or not to send this book. If you are still uncertain, then why not call her and tell her about your concerns? Why not express yourself in a loving and caring manner verbally, before you take any action? It sounds to me like you might have a touch of fear behind your good intentions. Have you examined this "fear", and why it exists? Fear has a tendency to stop many good people from doing many good things. Do not allow your fear to be in control. Talk with her openly,and honestly. Allow your heart to navigate your conversation. You can not go wrong when you express yourself from your heart. Things might not always turn out the way that you would want them to, but when all is said and done. You will have the satisfaction of knowing that you have done what is right by you. In the end, your feelings and love would have been shared and that is always a good thing.
2006-11-16 08:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by dr.cocktail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mail it to her.
She will get offended though so mail it anonymously. (so she doesn't know its you)
I am a smoker with a 14 year old son and he constantly on my back about quitting and I have tried several times. I get a little upset because he tells me all the time to quit and stuff. SO that's why I think she may be offended. Also she may not be ready to quit.
2006-11-16 07:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by stephanieplum4404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 05:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,she will be offended.If you're so close to her then when you visit her,start a chat with her.in the cause of the chat,then you ask her what smoking does for her,why she likes it and if she has being trying to stop.Then you can tell her about your book and ask her if she will like to read it.if she's interested,then you go ahead and give it to her.
However,you don't deal an adult with problem like you will deal with your age group.Some easily get offended,just try to be apologetic.Good luck
2006-11-16 07:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting questions. she could take offense to it because its denial. after doing something for along time, you dont wanna get reminded its bad. however, she could deep down be touched that you do care about her that much to try to help her to quit. send it to her and put a kind note in it that you found this book and that she came to mind and that it might help if shes interested. so do it
2006-11-16 07:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Icys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stop doing things when they themselves find the will to do it, by getting fed up with themselves. She probably won't read the book, and may get offended if you send it.
2006-11-16 11:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recommend the book to your friend and have her mention it to her mother.
2006-11-16 07:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friend about the book, tell her that you care about her family and that you don't want any thing to happen to her mother. you are a good friend. good luck!!!
2006-11-16 07:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it if you want but im sure that she already knows the dangers of smoking
2006-11-16 07:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋