I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've been wanting to ask this girl out for some time now. She is really, really shy. She's the type who won't start a conversation but will talk when someone starts first. We don't really "know" each other, not even names, but we've talked once in the library. She leaves directly at lunch because she takes the bus home. I notice that from a distance she will glance at me and see what I'm doing, then she'll hurry to the bus. We don't have any classes together so its really hard to get in touch with her. My question is this, how do I start something with this really really shy girl? Should I try and get her email or something to get to know her first or should I flat out ask her out so we can get to know each other there? She's really shy so I don't want to come on too strong, but enough to make my point. If anybody has any ideas on how to start something worth while and any ideas on places to ask her out to, please post them.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-11-16 07:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i will date you you love machine
2006-11-16 07:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should first try talking to her more often. You could try meeting up with her in the library again, and striking up a conversation, or talk to her in the hallway at school. Getting her email or maybe even her phone number would be a good idea. This way, you can start getting to know each other more before you ask her out. Odds are that since she is so shy, she's afraid of you rejecting her if she asks you out. Just be as confident as you seem to be here, and I'm sure she'll warm up to you.
2006-11-16 07:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start out talking to her nice and slow. Ask her about herself. Even though she's shy doesn't means she is boring or anything. Maybe she wants to be approached first. I used to be like that and whenever a guy came up to me and started talking some sense then I warmed up. Don't be azz-hole 2 her. Some shy girls come off as stuck up so don't be upset if she seems stand offish. Just let her know u wanna go out with her and that u aren't like regular guys who don't want to get to kno a girl inside.
hope she says yes
xoxo
b and b
2006-11-16 07:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Chocol@t3 K!$$3$♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start talking about the weather.. Just ask a question and try to make conversation and then ask her what she likes to do.. what music she likes.. you know just questions that she has to answer. That way she will feel comfortable talking to you. then you can suggest something that you two can do together like a movie or go get something to eat at her favorite place.. Slowly work your way in.. Don't rush it. ok and good luck.. hope it works.
2006-11-16 07:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by gamustanggirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go out with her in a non-date way. Find out if she needs some help with anything at school, or tell her you need help with something.
Find any reason you can to be with her alone, at a mall because you don't know what to buy your mom for her birthday, at a coffee shop on the week-end or after school because you are too shy to let people know you need help....anything
2006-11-16 09:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by superinteligent shade of blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i know all about these ones.......and youre on the right track.....cant come on too aggressive.......
one thing for sure is you have to start making some kind of contact with her........start making eye contact and smiling NOW.....
then you can simply walk up to her nice and relaxed......and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime.......not a date....just hanging out......important you get that across........but DONT say it lol.........ask her to some place public preferably with some friends..........perfect place would be high school basketball game or something.......you can sit next to each other and talk......then take it from there.....
2006-11-16 07:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With you name, I wouldn't think you'd have a problem talking to a girl. Slip her a note asking if she'll meet you in the library. If she comes, then ask her out.
2006-11-16 07:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out wot she like where she hangs out and then u can go to where she hangs out and start a conversation on some thing she like then ask her for her email and get to know her as a friend then ask her out
2006-11-16 07:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by cute_angel_skater_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest politely asking her out--maybe to a show, where there won't be any pressure on her for conversation. Good luck :)
2006-11-16 07:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just go up to her and at lunch before she goes home and ask her out the worst she can say is no you havent got anything to loose
2006-11-16 07:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋