ok i asked once about this guy i really like and i need advise again.
ok i might be pregnant but i don't know yet. it's his but what should i do?? i can't support and neither can he. i wanna put it up for adoption but should i tell him??
i can't handle his regection anymore
please help
2006-11-16 07:32:33 · 22 answers · asked by Shortie<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you know that he most certainly is going to say no, then it might just be better off with people who can actually support the baby. When you put your child up for adoption, you can sign a form that on their 18th birthday, the child can have contact with you. If you get along with the parents, they may let you see them while its a child too. No child so suffer because of the parents. Don't struggle. Its not just your fault, he did half of it too. You should tell him and let him know that he has fathered a child, if he wants to act stupid then just ignore him because hes just an immature boy. If you are really young, don't let someone stop you from completeing your dreams. I know plenty of people who have kids and go to school. It might be a little harder on them considering they are a child and a parent, but you have to do what you have to do. Do what you think is right for you and the baby. This isn't fun and games anymore, its another life too.
2006-11-16 07:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by baby_blue_trouble10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, its his responsibility, to just let him know that your pregnant and that you were thinking you should put it up for adoption, let him know that you aren't ready to have a baby and that you are the one left with all the responsibilities after the baby is born and at anytime, the father can leave and its up to you. you decide what to you want to do, to give the baby a better life. And as far as rejection, he will hate you, 5 million times more if you put this baby up for adoption and he doesn't know and finds out later, he will get over it now but, if you don't tell him it could get a lot worse.
2006-11-16 07:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shelby C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't afford to have a baby why are you having unprotected sex. If this guy isn't willing to stick by you no matter what decision you make then you should definitely dump him.
Have the two of you ever talked about what would happen in this situation?
You both need a reality check. Adoption isn't as easy as it seems. I tried to give my son up for adoption but in the end I could not do it. Please use condoms.
2006-11-16 07:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find out for sure whether or not you are pregnant. If the answer is yes, then you need to let him know and you both need to sit down and figure out what to do next. Before taking that step, I would recommend also talking to your parents (or a school counsellor) as you both seem very young and could benefit from some adult advice.
2006-11-16 07:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adoption is the best option...and in my opinion if you guys are not "officially" together and there is not commitment there, it is soley your decision about what to do. You have to let him know what your decision is...but adoption is the best, there are so many wonderful families out there waiting for children, so do everyone a favor-stop stressing over this guy-stress doesn't help your pregnancy, take good care of yourself and your baby and then give it to a loving family who can properly support it.
2006-11-16 07:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by ataman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He deserves the right to know, but make sure you are first. You kids who are too young to figure out whether or not you might be pregnant and can't support a child if you are need to STOP having sex in the first place.
2006-11-16 07:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First find out if you are pregnant or not. If you are, he has a right to know. As for not being able to support a child you really should have thought of that before having sex with him but it's too late for that now.
2006-11-16 07:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, make a doctor's appt. ( or take a store bought test) and find out for sure if you're pregnant. You have a moral right to tell him if he's the father--but it sounds like he wouldn't be adverse to adoption, if he's rejecting you already. It takes a lot of courage unselfishness, and love to put a child up for adoption (instead of going the other route), good for you! You have my respect. and good luck :)
2006-11-16 07:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do what every other woman does.....have it and strap the guy with child support, you will get a second check for the next 18 years...the more he makes the more you take.....its a win win situation...you can claim all sorts of fake child care to boost your pay....one kid alone can get you enough cash to pay for a car or even a home or apartment.
Most women have at least 2, why you think women are gaining so much power these days....its because they have the cash.
2006-11-16 07:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a pregnacy test and Dont put the baby for adoption get wale fare it helps ask the school for help and sopport they do a good job just tell him that is what happens when you dont use a condom
2006-11-16 07:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋