Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 4 months now and i haven't had an orgasm yet. And i fake it almost everytime so he doesnt feel bad or anything. & Its not that its really fast or anything. Its just not as great as everyone says it should be. But for some reason i still love doing it. Whats the deal? & Do you have any ideas on how we can change this?
2006-11-16 07:27:08 · 20 answers · asked by oohigetitxo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MOVE WITH HIM AND PUT PRESSURE ON YOUR THIGHS,THAT SHOULD HELP..
2006-11-16 07:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ lou lou ♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it would be good to know how old you are....might be good to add that..but, there are actually alot of women who don't have orgasms, and there could be many reasons why...BUT, you really don't need to fake them...if he finds out, it will only hurt him worse. If you are both mature enough to be having sex, then you should both know all the facts. He should know that there can be many reasons for you not having an orgasm, not necessarily it being him...My husband is a WONDERFUL lover, but I can't orgasm at all without a bullet vibrator (which is small egg shaped, place on the clitoris)..Might be something for you to look into. Also, if you are new at it, you may be trying too hard...relax and enjoy it...talk to him about it so you can explore the things that feel good to YOU.....Good luck...trust me, the end result is worth it all!!!
2006-11-16 07:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by help4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probly have a hormone imbalance which a simple nedication can fix. Everyone has difference reactions to sex, and many people just do not need it as oftena nd while they enjoy it some will not experience pleasures in the same way.
It could be that he is just not going in far enough and your pleasure senses needing to be reached is futher up than most females, it's biology and bodly function and beleive me everyone in the world will have different problems at different times. the key is to recognize it as you have and seek help as it is there.
If mor epeople would get help when they have problems to began with there would be fewer divorces, and better harmony between the sexes.
Also you do not know if it's him if he is the only one you have ever had sex with. Some times two people can have sex and just not click regardless of how they try. It's possibel that it's as hard fo rhim as it is for you.
Conversation and medical help is your best road to travel,
Good luck:). we all have been there or will sooner or later
2006-11-16 07:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and how old is he? Young guys usually don't know where the clitoris is (or what it is lol) and most women can't orgasm by penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation is usually necessary for the woman to "get there". Show him. Oral is usually a sure fire way to orgasm.
2006-11-16 07:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't orgasm during sex. Try being on top of him and having him touch you while you're having sex. That might make it easier.
2006-11-16 07:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fyou have an orgasm during oral sex. and not regular sex all it means is your body is put together differently...Not a bad way. Try using toys on your clit while having sex that should work.
2006-11-16 07:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...touch yourself...and make yourself orgasm....if you can't achieve one on your own...you won't know what or how to do with with a man...oh and get a toy...love my toys...
of course if you had an experienced man..he'd make it happen...
in no time if you have not had one....U are losing out....
don't fake...it's not a nice thing to do....he thinks he's getting you off...
good luck and be well..
2006-11-16 07:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself orgasm tonight then the next time you two are together you can show him what needs to be done.
2006-11-16 07:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy but I have had women tell me that the best way they found to achieve that was to first do it solo until you are comfortable with it solo. Then you will know what to do to get there with someone else.
2006-11-16 07:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by questioningly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get him to eat you out instantaneous u like the way it feels the most have him keep going and going u will commence not being waiting to take it than have him fingler you and eat you out on that very same spot and then very straight away u receives it u will kno even as it come ur legs will shake and ur body will experience like u only want to go back out of ur body plus he will understand the style nicely ur likely to go back alot and the style will be sweet and extremely reliable to him=] the feeling is remarkable u will be going insane after words u will experience weak
2016-11-24 22:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you need to stop faking and talk to him..i'm sure if he knew he'd work a little harder and would pay more attention to your needs and wants. it won't get better if he thinks he's doing all of the right things.
2006-11-16 07:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by anya_8884 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋