I was invited to a wedding in Poland as two friends of my girlfriend are getting married there (my girlfriend is Polish).
I already accepted but thinking about all these non english speaking people, and I don't know anybody makes me feel like I really don't want to go. Plus this is being there for 3 days !
How can I pull out ?
2006-11-16 07:26:50 · 32 answers · asked by Thomas D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her that you are a bit worried about not knowing anyone there and the fact that you are going to find it a bit difficult. However don't dwell on it too much, if she agrees with you then you are home and dry and you can pull out, if however she gets angry then don't mention it again.
And a bit nearer the time you need to develop flu or a back injury because that is the only way you are going to get out of it. Or you could say that you looked at your finances and what with Christmas approaching you really don't think that you are going to be able to afford it.
However if this really upset your girlfriend you are just going to have to bite the bullet and go and you never know f just might enjoy it
2006-11-16 10:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your girlfriend will be with you and you'll get lots of brownie points for going! Plus i reckon you'll be surprised how many people do speak english as a second language. Just grit your teeth, clasp your wineglass and get through it (is only one day of the actual wedding then i assume you can go off sightseeing with your gf?). If you've accepted you can't really pull out of the whole thing without faking an illness (which i suspect your gf will see right through) and wasting all that money on plane tickets. If you're having a crap time at the reception maybe plead off sick an hour or so into it, (of course heroically insisting your gf stays behind to enjoy herself. but it's a risky one!). but i bet it won't be as bad as you think it will be.
2006-11-16 10:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been going out with your girlfriend? That may matter here.
Are you in the U.S.? Sounds like pretty far to go for just three days!
You have to realize when you are marrying someone from a different ethnicity that you are often going to be put in situations where you are the only non-their-ethnicity one. Got it? I have dealt with this for many many years. It is frustrating but you do it because you love the other person.
So tell the truth if you end up deciding not to go. She'll understand.
Or go and have a great time and a once in a lifetime experience.
2006-11-16 09:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell the couple (as soon as possible) that you do not feel comfortable going to their wedding and that you will not be able to attend. I got married recently, and the most important thing to me was to have the number of people who were actually coming.
As long as you tell them more than two or three weeks in advance, it should work out fine.
2006-11-16 07:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open minded and have fun. the food is great and the mountain resorts are pristine if you are into snowboarding and sjkiin. The scenery is fabouluos, don;t expect fancy stuff because Poland is one of the underdeveloped countries in Europe, but in any event,. I'll trade you any time! Who says no to a Euro trip?
2006-11-16 07:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know that even though you previously said that you would love to go, you really cant. Send them a gift however. I wouldnt lie or anything. If your girlfriend is going, you can let her know why, but not the couples that will be getting married.
If they live here in the US but are getting married over there, then offer to take them out for dinner upon their return.
2006-11-16 07:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gf is going I'd say go with her, you might have fun.
But if you're dead set on skipping out, it doesn't really matter the excuse. I mean, if you've already RSVP'd that you're going and then don't, the couple will automatically assume something important must have come up last minute and 9 times outta 10 won't ask questions.
Don't lie unless you have to. ;)
2006-11-16 07:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had 3 friends who have been to weddings in prague - and a lot of it wasn't in english, didn't know anyone - but they had really good time - i think weddings abroad are more fun, less formal than ours.
i also prefer weddings where you don't know people and you can just get drunk with strangers! instead of pretending to enjoy the company of people you wouldn't have seen if you weren't at a wedding.
2006-11-16 07:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Charlotte T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why pull out? You will meet some interesting people. Perhaps you don't want to attend because you will feel lonely? Make new friends at the wedding
2006-11-16 07:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go with your girlfriend. Look at it as a way to learn about a new culture, meet new people and see a new country if for nothing else.
You shouldn't back out now, think about how that will make your GF feel.
-EZ
2006-11-16 07:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋