Among his other bad behavior, he says that his family has money and that he will take the child from me once it is born if I break up with him. just this threat alone makes me very nervous. He is very vengfull which ive seen first hand, and his family has alot of money which I do not. aside from all the other probs I have with him...I feel backed up against a wall with this one.
2006-11-16 07:16:21 · 18 answers · asked by christie 1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just leave, you don't need the threats. Money doesn't give you the right to a kid. Don't worry.
2006-11-16 07:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get away with this intimidation! It is rediculous, and you shouldn't be nervous about losing your baby.
Leave this immature jerk, and concentrate on being a good mom. Generally speaking, the courts find that a child is better with his or her mother, so as long as he can't prove that you're doing something to be a neglectfull or abusive mother you have nothing to worry about.
the courts already know that money doesn't make a good parent, so all the highpowered attorneys in the world won't make a difference.
Also, I like someone's advice to try to somehow get his ramblings recorded....tape record him saying this stuff, try to get him to leave you a voicemail or write you an email or letter.
Good luck, and I'm sorry your baby has a jerk for a father!!!
2006-11-16 07:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and if you can tape record him saying that.... A judge would love it. A judge would never take a baby away from the mother due to one parent has more money then the other. It's just an empty threat to scare you... but seriously you should start talking to people about how to get child support.
2006-11-16 07:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think the only way he could take the baby from you is to prove that your are an unfit mother, which is hard to do. Don't let him play mind games with you. What will the rest of your life be like if you stay with him? Good luck. Oh yeah, be sure you get child support from him. That was one of the biggest mistakes I made, not getting my daughters father to hold up his end of the financial part. In the last 12 years he's paid maybe $50 in medical, none in dental. I have no financial help from him at all. He thinks he has the right to tell me that it's none of my business what goes on at his house when it involves her.
2006-11-16 07:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does take you to court, he has to prove he is a fit Father. Even then he can't get full custody, because you are the Maternal & Soul Mother. He would have to prove you unfit. Which in most cases calls for a Mom with : No job, no house, no capability of taking care of a child. So let him tell you all the BS he want. Tell him to do what he's gotta do.......Just watch your steps around him though, cause it does sound like he is out to getcha.
2006-11-16 07:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST get this on record that he is saying this about the cash flow intimidation. Get him to write you a letter, record a conversation, have some witnesses. The courts HATE this kind of intimidation. All you can do is rally your resources, your family and prepare to be a good mom. Money does not make a good child, as you ironically, can see first hand from this boy.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-16 07:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave but on good terms!!! Let him know he can see the baby at your house with your supervision and that his family is welcome there anytime that is good with you! He can't get custody of the baby without proving that you are very unfit and unable to care for your baby which I'm sure you are not like that :) If he has any problems tell him you'll let the courts decide what will happen! There are lawyers out there that help low income families and single parents..Check into that at a social services office, you dont need to claim their benefits just need help with lawyer fees..
2006-11-16 07:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having these feelings you should get away from him now. Don't let this parent's money or his threats scare you because most judges always take the mother's side in a custody case. Unless you have been in and out of jail or you have some type of provable drug problem. If you don't get out now you will probally regret it later.
2006-11-16 07:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Angela B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't take the baby from you. He's just being a jerk. Do you have family or some place to go? If so, do it. If he has money, much the better. You can get child support. Best of luck, girl.
2006-11-16 07:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to push you around, just don't put his name of the birth certificate. You don't have too and most states he can't do nothing about it. He can try to push you around just leave him! This sounds like he'll become abusive. If this get really bad find a relative/friend out of states to visit and stay with them. You'll need to tell your family what is going on ask for help! If you leave tell them not to tell the boyfriend where you are staying. Get a restraining order, they don't really work but it'll be useful in court
2006-11-16 07:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if his family has money. If you guys go to court for custody it's only going to matter who the better parent is and who the child is better off with. Do not let yourself feel trapped. You aren't trapped...you have a choice. If it is an abusive relationship (emotionally) get out now.
2006-11-16 07:21:57 · answer #11 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋