im supposed to get married soon.i love him so much. but theres this guy that is my ex. my first love and im talking to him again. now all my feelings are rushed and im thinking of leaving my fiance, but i love both
2006-11-16 07:00:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
CONFUSED!?! It is a no-brainer. Why is the ex the ex? If you left him, there had to be reasons for it. And if he left you. why would you want to go back to maybe get dumped again? Do not mistake lose feelings of lust for love. Imagine 4 years down the line? Who do you REALLY see there? The ex or the poor dupe that wants to marry you? And you, in your heart, have already cheated him before the wedding. Infidelity starts in the heart, goes to the mind, then is acted out. When you meet up with the ex. try to focus on the reasons why you are not together and cold not work it out to stay together and not just all those horizontal mambos, pic nic, and other events you did.
2006-11-16 09:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same situation!!! Just remember WHY you and your ex broke up in the first place and that will cure that!!! Your fiance' took a big step to ask you to marry him and you should value that. How come your ex didn't make that commitment with you? Don't throw your relationship away over a whim! THINK GIRL, THINK!!!!!! Holla
2006-11-16 07:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by twilight1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're scared of getting married and making the commitment. And guess what....That's normal!
You're not with your ex for a reason. I think you should go out to lunch/dinner with your ex and think about why you left him. You'll realize why you did and you'll be glad you did.
When I really got serious with my current gf, my ex emailed me. I had the same feelings you're having. I went out to dinner with the ex on her invitation and as we sat there eating, I remembered why we broke up in the first place.
I knew I made the right decision!
2006-11-16 07:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, it's true we never forget about our first loves. Sort out your feelings first before getting married (cause there's no turning back) but set aside a little part of your heart for the memories with him, but there was a reason you guys are no longer together.
2006-11-16 07:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant love two peopel and have true love at the same time. even tho u may love them both, u cant love both as they truely deserve to be loved. true love desires exclusiveness, and to last forever. if u truely love soemone, u dont want anyone else, even if ur attracted to other peopel, u dont act on it. u should slow down, take a breather an ask urself "if i cant chose between these two guys, is it cuase neither are for me?" ask urself "if i could only have the love of ONE person, on this whole planet, and everybody else hated me or couldnt care less, who would that person be?" when u have the love of ur true love, nothing else matters
2006-11-16 07:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down the pros and cons of each relationship and figure out which is better for you. You may find that your new bf is better and as for the old bf think about why you broke up in the first place and is anything has really changed since then(chances are they probaly didn't)
2006-11-16 07:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by cereleangirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really cant love both the same amont. go with which one you love the most. cause if you still have feelings for your ex than please dont get married to the other dude. and i think you should tell him to put the wedding off for a while just to clear up the situation. make sure you choose the right one. good luck!
2006-11-16 07:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by britni h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Stop the wedding, quick. It is completely unfair for you to even think about marriage if you are not 100% committed to your fiance (emotionally, physically, and mentally) and only your fiance.
2006-11-16 07:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should rethink ur feeling for the ex hes that for a reason and think about the good man u have now that cares about u and obviously loves u
2006-11-16 07:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by becky a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be don't ruin it with your fiance, don't forget there is a reason the other guy is your ex.
2006-11-16 07:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by John H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋