Mu daughter calls me by my first name!?

Question

My son is a year old already but it seems like ever since he was born my daughter (who is almost 3)has been calling me by my first name and acting as if she doesn't know how to do things that she wouldn't want help doing before my son was born. Why do you think she has taken a few steps back developmentally and how can I get her to stop referring to me by my first name? It doesnt make sence that she would be jealous of her brother either, she has had no decrease in love and attention since before he was born to now.

Answer 1

One of my friends told his son, "there are only two people in the whole, wide world that are allowed to call me dad, and you are one of them."
That seemed to the trick for his 4 year old.

Answer 2

It makes perfect sense, she was the only one you had to care for before and now there is this other one who is far more demanding than her, so she is reverting to being a baby again instead of "I can do it", especially when she is not feeling well as in a slight cold or whatever.

As for letting her call you by your first name it is because you are letting her, don't answer her when she does this and don't give her a cookie or whatever she is asking for until she acknowledges you as Mom.

Try making some special time just for you "grown up" girls while her brother is napping, show her pictures of when she was a little baby like her brother, and so on, make a big deal out of her doing things for herself telling her you don't know how mom would manage if she wasn't there to help and make it a conversation piece over dinner with dad and so on. Good luck but don't worry too much about it she is still very young and pliable so she should come around, she just may be a little confused as to her place in the family scheme of things and not realize what family means yet.

Answer 3

Although you may not think that the new baby has effected your 3 y/o...For the last two years, it's been all about her. She didn't have to share you with anyone, now that's all changed, and for her it's a huge change. It will pass I'm sure.

I was 20 months old when my little brother was born. My mom said that for almost a year after that, I referred to my mom by her first name "Sheila", ALL THE TIME. She said that when I would do that, she would just ask me "Who am I??" Then I would say "mommy". but the next time I needed something I would call her by her name again. Sometimes she would say "Sheila's gone today, only mommy is here right now." It turned into a game of sorts and eventually I just referred by to calling her mommy. Just give it time and keep trying to include her in everything, and be sure to give her "her time" too. Good luck.

Answer 4

Have your family call you mommy or mama. Children repeat what they hear she probably heard someone call you by your first name . Just make sure that she knows who you are When she calls you by your first name .

My brother and I had the exact same problem. She feels shoved aside. Shes also a bit jealous. When my little brother was born my parents spent a lot less time with me since they both worked and spent most of the time with him when they got home. My mom included me in helping with my brother like getting the diaper and baby wipes and helping change and feed him. She also let me help cook dinner Just include her into things and things will go back to normal within a few weeks.

Answer 5

I just had a baby and also have a 3 year at home. I have noticed the same thing. He likes to call both my husband and I by our first names and asks for help with things he can totally do on his own. I think its to get our attention, Even though you maybe spending just as much time with her, another person is still invading your time together, in her eyes. I"m sure its a phase, and this too shall pass!

Answer 6

No matter how much love and attention you shower your daughter with there will be feelings of resentment in young children when a new sibling arrives. You still have to split your time with them both and this will have side effects. It's just a phase that a lot of preschoolers go through. When she calls you by your name just remind her that it's not appropriate for her to call you that, tell her to call you Mom or mommy, and let it go. Eventually she will come around and start acting like the independent girl you know and love :)

Answer 7

I think you should hold her and let her know you love her and she need to here you said I'm mom me. and every time she call you out of your first name let her know in a very soft way I'm mom me and I love you to call me that. and give her a kiss. I don't have no favoritism between you and your brother I love you both. Baby have to be taught in a love-able way.Because I have had two baby once upon a time. being a single mom. my daughter 6 yrs. Born first and my son 3 yrs. old born second, my daughter felt the same way. So what I have done to make them both feel love. I held them both together in a group hug-and I kiss them, letting them kiss each other on the jaw calling it our cycle of love. Now they are grown up and the best of friends. To this day. Both of them are still calling me mom me. Smiling

Answer 8

Jealousy is the easiest answer. Did you teach her your name? Because I remember I didn't even know my parents name until I was like 4 or 5. She probably wants equal attention; even though you love her just the same, the attention a baby gets is more than with the older child, even if you don't think it decreased. (Nightly feedings, carrying the baby, playing with the baby, staying home with the baby, etc.) Try to be patient, and good luck~

Answer 9

My mum and dad call us: Bridget (me) : Bridge, Bugaboo, Gidget Christopher: Chris, Gopher Christianna: Christy, Tia, Anna Jordyn: Jord, Lynn, Rocky David: Davie, D.J. W Jacob: Jake, Jakie, Muffincup Emily: Emmie, Emmybabie Ashley: Ash, Ashers, bypass over Washington (lengthy tale)

Answer 10

i know a family where all of the kids call their parents by there first names. it is possible that your daughter does not feel very attatched to you and therefore does not have the desire to call you mom, and the bond between you might not be as strong, or it also might be a possibility that she doesnt feel that she has your attention unless she calls you by your first name. the new addition to the family caould have caused her to think that she lost some of your love and attention even though the case may or may not be so.

Answer 11

Take a look again. It might be that you need to spend even more time. Try spending one evening every few days with her such that it is her choice: pizza, movie, playing princess, etc.
It might be that she is looking for a confidant rather than a parent with the new baby; whatever, do not take the first name personally, just ignore it. Good luck