I am a nanny for 2 little girls. The 8 yr old doesn't take confrontation well at all. When I try to explain what her bad behavior is, she shuts down and gets all worked up over a single incident to where I can't even talk to her. She can't seem to hear me when I explain how her behavior is harmful. She only sees the one incident and thinks there is nothing wrong with it. There is no reasoning with her. Her mom told me her dad used to yell at her and that's when she started doing this. Any ideas on how to work through this??
2006-11-16 06:50:06 · 11 answers · asked by BaseballGrrl 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Tell her that when she continues to act this way the same conversation is going to keep happening until she stops. Explain to her that until she is ready to discuss why she did whatever it was that was wrong, she will stand in the corner or be unable to do anything fun. Girls are tough, I know I was for my mom.
2006-11-16 07:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old who used to do something similar, the more I talked and explained, the more upset she became. Quite honestly, I became so concerned I spoke with her teacher and her doctor.
The problem regarding my child is that she has not fully emotionally matured the way most children do, because of her age, this is not as much of a concern as it may be to the girl you're watching.
If the mother is open to the idea, I would suggest to her that her daughter attend some sort of counseling. Perhaps an outside person can help her understand what's going on with all of the emotions she's feeling.
2006-11-16 07:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot reason with a child.
You ignore the behavior and move on to something fun. Tell her sha can't do it if that is how she is going to behave. Let her join when she is calm and explain how fun you can be if she will just let you. Let her know you want to be her friend so if she gets angry she needs to tell you instead of acting out. Let her know it is normal to get angry, but how we express the anger is a choice. If you choose to yell and scream and be hateful then you will miss out on fun things in life. If you can just say something like GRRR You really make me angry and then explain why......Let her know it is a lot easier for you not to make her angry if she can tell you what it is that makes her so angry.
Then you have to make an effort not to do whatever it is that angers her or explain why, if it is something you have to do even though it makes her angry.
I used to be a nanny for a 9 and 10 yr old, it is not easy. But respect her and she will respect you.
2006-11-16 07:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic case: the daughter is in charge. Unless the parents change, and make rules the dd know she can not fuss her way around, they are setting themselves up for a horrible long road of a pushy, spoiled, brat. There is nothing you can do, because if the two main folks in her life let her 'be cute' to get whatever she wants, you can't compete.
2006-11-16 11:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to almost everyone while they fall asleep. Animals do it too. It seems like it has something to do with the muscles relaxing, but I forget.
2016-03-28 22:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My therapist gave me this sentence. It is four parts, but it can be used with all age groups.
"When you __________, the result is _________, and I feel _________. I would prefer that you ___________."
Ex. For my daughter I have said, "When you scream, the result is I cannot understand what you are saying, and I feel disrespected (sad). I would prefer that you talk with me about your needs."
It works well for many different age groups. My wife uses it with me, and I use it with her, when discussing delicate subjects.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 07:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by clahti1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you talk to her make sure she is looking at you(make her have eye contact). Most kids that act this way don't like to make eye contact ...so get down at eye level and talk to her that way..If she doesn't look at you when you talk is like she is not listening to you...I had a niece liked that and that always use to work..GOOD LUCK..
2006-11-16 08:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a time out until she will listen to you no matter how long it takes
2006-11-16 06:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by goodtimesgladly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therepy......fast
2006-11-16 17:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is bipolar
her parents should have her checked
2006-11-16 06:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by DR. WHO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋