This is for all men, who had a relationship, with a girl, loved her, could not resist temtention, may cheated once or twice, got enthousiastic of something new, left ur partner, cheated on your new girl. Want to keep a friendship with ur ex, AND IN TIME TO PASS, REALIZED----------OH, GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE, I LOVE MY EX PARTNER, WITH HER I HAD A BETTER LIFE, I MISS HER SO MUCH. U DECIDE TO GO BACK, would u cheat again? what takes for a man to be ready not to want to cheat? when is a MAN READY TO COMMIT IN BODY AND SOUL? how can I know he is committed to his decision?
2006-11-16 06:45:48 · 13 answers · asked by Julia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Julie,
This question is as relevant to women as it is to men as they cheat on their husbands too. For example, Clara Harris ran over her husband "accidental" 3 times for cheating on her. What did not come out in the media, is that she had cheated on him too...but he did not think she deserved to be pavement for his car.
Many women look for married men because they do not want the commitment
Did you know that at least a third of the children men are paying for in child support are not their children as proven by DNA?
Seems that it is more then men that like to play but then, shouldn't everyone know that that person they are about to go to bed with is NOT "THEIR" husband or wife?
Why do they not stop to think that if they will do this before marriage, what makes them think they will only be faithful to each other after marriage?
There is always a hidden cost to all of this...check the link below to find out more.
2006-11-16 07:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm no man but I've been around the block a few times too many. Yes this guy will cheat again! If it isn't tomorrow it will be in 5 years form now.
To get a man to take a commitment and for him to take it seriously is to let him chew all the wild oats he can and wants and let him get it out of his system. It comes with age and experience. If he has no respect for women nothing will help not even age or experience and some men are just like that! And well some men are just born decent and wouldn't even think about it.
You should think more of yourself and have more respect for yourslef to not settle for some one that treats you like this. Give your self a bit more credit and shut the door behind you and do not open it again, it's his loss but you'll keep letting him back in to turn your world up side down and mean while the good men that come into your life will be over looked. Only you can break the cycle and put your foot down and stick up for yourself. Life is too short I'd rather know about what kind of man he is and face the truth then to cover it up and accept it and take the chance of it happening again. Find your self a decnt man... Know read between the lines the bedroom talk the lies the ego and see who they really are before you commite you heart, mind and soul to them. - Good Luck!
2006-11-16 07:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm not a young man. But I am divorced not because of what he did. but because if my past abuse from my parents.
My ex was very faithful I Just couldn't trust him. I kept telling him i know your cheating on me" he wasn't I Just couldn't trust him. NOT all men will cheat. Just because a few men and women cheat doesn't mean they all do. Just thought i would say that. God I miss my Husband
2006-11-16 07:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by I Hate My Life 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to cause insult to injury here, rather, please hear me out.
I come to tell you that infidelity goes both ways, and equally. There are as many decent women as there are men. There is many misconceptions about men being these "cheaters". That which of course, is merely opinion... Certainly not fact. According to medical and Nat'l stats on "infidelity"? Right now, it is women - yes women. However, such stats on infidelity fluctuates all the time. However, we've got a war going on... Many men fighting for our freedom... But at the homefront back home? Wife is alone, board, and in need of a hobby... You get the point.
Anyways....
I served in the US military(Army)for 8+ years. On EVERY DEPLOYMENT... Even if it was a month away from home... Military spouses will cheat. Not saying all, but quite a few do. Numerous come up pregnant - I know this because I was a medic and worked in an ER. I seen all kinds of cheating wives going in for STD & pregnancy tests. And in all honesty... I was disgusted. Several of them had the audacity to lie to their husbands - "its 3-4 months late, but still a healthy baby!!"
While I was in the Army, I too was hit on by numerous military spouses. Quite a few of them became completely pissed off at me as I told them - NO. One gal threw her hi-heeled shoe at me all because I said - NO. Let me tell ya. Id feel like sh*t to sleep with a man's wife. Especially when he's dodging bullets. As for those spouses pulling that cheating crap? Grow up.
But i bet just as soon as she decides to leave the man who cared for her... The same man she once loved and helped create a family with...She will ride him thru divorce, take the kids, and have him pay dearly for it all. She might accuse him of "abandonment" or "not showing love". Or she may just up and leave with her new boy-toy. Let me tell you something... That sort of crap happends just about daily to our men in the US military. Husband goes to war... Comes back home finding a restraining order, or divorce papers(thus will pay 40% of monthly income to child support thereafter... plus any expenses she decided to accrued).... Oh this is VERY REAL, and HAPPENDS MUCH TOO OFTEN.
What a wonderful welcome home gift to the one who loves and cares about you... Even putting his life on the line. Wow, thats just a great home-coming-welcome(sarcasm).
2006-11-16 18:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Timmmay! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol there is no set age or set time that ALL men will be ready to commit. this is dependant soley on the person and that persons maturity level. however if that person truly thought that he had it good with his ex then he shouldnt have cheated on her in the first place, that kills trust and trust is... most important in a relationship, agree? personally it would take a lot for me to regain trust in my partner if she cheated on me, that would assume i even do regain trust. i value trust/loyalty very high and i wont just give it to anyway. if you break it its tough luck for you.
2006-11-16 06:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
typically if someone's cheated once, they're very likely to cheat again, not saying they always will- but chances are high
if you're going to be with someone who's cheated in the past, it's a good idea for that person to be busy, to not be in situations where it's easy to hook up with someone else, and where there's alot of stimulation in their relationship- those 3 things make cheating alot less likely...
whatever your decision, good luck~
2006-11-16 06:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally believe once a cheater always a cheater. I've been cheated on, too. And let me tell you something - it's dangerous because you don't know what he's going to bring back to your bed. Personally, I wouldn't trust him.
2006-11-16 06:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
little hint dear - if your man is back in your life after cheating on you, it is because he cant get it anywhere else at the moment, and he knows you will put out. Also, if you accept him back knowing he has cheated on you, you will send a subconcious message to him that it is OKAY to cheat on you, because you will forgive him and allow it to happen again.
Stay away from him. He wants only what is good for himself.
2006-11-16 06:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont believe once a cheater, always a cheater. People change, but you have to base the desicion on the enitre situation. You cant know, you can trust, but "sleep with one eye open".
2006-11-16 06:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What girl would want him back? If any guy I dated cheated on me, he'd never get back in with me again. ONce a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-11-16 06:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by sister steph 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋