Is it a turn on or turn off for the guy to make fun of himself?

Question

I've always found it easiest to make girls laugh when i make fun of myself, but is it actually doing more harm than good? Please answer honestly girls, saying just what you think i want to hear isnt going to get you an easy best answer.

Answer 1

Ok, to an extent I think it's funny to make fun of ourselves. It becomes annoying "if" that's all you ever do and it's always VERY negative. That's a very unbecoming trait. We all want to date someone who is confident in their own skin. It is definitely a turn-off if someone is always down on themselves. Now, that being said, you HAVE to be able to laugh at yourself, but be confident at the same time.

Answer 2

Kind of both- people tend to appreciate a self-deprecating sense of humor in moderation, because it shows everyone that you can take a joke and you don't think you're all that (because nothing's less attractive than a cocky snob who's full of himself!) On the flipside, if you keep putting yourself down, you might bring some of your flaws to their attention too much. Forinstance, if you had a big nose and always made jokes about it, the girls will think to themselves, "My God, he really does have a huge nose!" and then that's all they will ever think about you. Also, girls tend to like guys with some self-confidence, not *********, but a self-assured sort of personality. If all you ever do is put yourself down, she'll think that you think you're worthless and that's a red flag, because no girl wants to go out with a guy whose ego she'll have to massage day in and day out. My advice: keep a couple of your self-deprecating jokes, and get rid of the rest. Also, in a conversation, try to work at least one positive thing (not bragging, just stated as a fact) about yourself. (Example: "I've been plaing guitar since I was 10," or something like that.)

Answer 3

It depends. If you make a silly error, then yeah, poke fun at it and yourself for making the silly error. But I would be concerned about self esteem issues in a guy that constantly made fun of himself. I would be worried about emotional instability, as well. So yeah, if you trip over your feet, laugh and comment about having two left feet that day. But if you're just constantly bringing yourself down, it's going to end up bringing people around you down, too.

Answer 4

I personally don't think this is a good idea as some may think that you're self concious; it might not be the case.
As a girl, I like guys who crack good jokes not about themselves. It makes you look more confident if you don't joke about yourself.
You shouldn't carry on just because it's the easiest option, try something new even if you think it won't please who you're talking to.

Answer 5

It's more harm. Making fun of yourself shows a lack of confidence and that you don't like yourself. If you don't like you, how can anyone else?
Also, you may point out something that they don't even see.

Answer 6

Its a good ice breaker and every now and then its ok. It shows that you have confidence and you are very down to earth. HOWEVER, overdoing it only shows that you think very little of yourself and that you portrait yourself as a loser and girls only like losers as friends.

Answer 7

Yes, but to a point. I don't want someone who constantly dogges themselves like "I'm so stupid." but, a guy who can take a trip on the steps and laugh, yes, that is a good thing.

Answer 8

yes I think it can be a turn off, but not necessarily, come to think of it it is quite intelligent of you, but you mustn't do it out of habit, just when it's needed

Answer 9

When you laugh at yourself, it shows that you're comfortable with who you are... if she doesnt appreciate that, you dont need her.

Answer 10

off baby, show some self respect and so will they