So, what happens with shy guys. Nobody will be attracted to us cause we never open our mouth so they can never know our personality. It's strange, cause i see girls and just by seeing them i'm attracted to them, but girls are not attracted to guys the same way. Moreover, if they are attracted to guys, they are attracted to buff, tall.. and handsome guys, not skinny, flabby, and guys with a limp( like i have cause i have knee injuries).
My point here is, how in the world are girls ever going to be attracted to us shy guys, if they never get to know us.. And sure, i may talk to a girl if she talks to me.. but being a shy guy i 'm not going to be soooo open about everything like social guys are. Therefore, they are not going to know my real self, therefore they don't know my personality, therefore they will not be attracted to me. On the other hand, I"m so attracted to girls i see anywhere, and they don't even talk to me.
2006-11-16 06:19:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first thing u need to do is not care about what they think of you. girls are more attracted to guys with confidence even though if ur fat or skinny it doesnt matter and ofcourse u have to be sociable too if u want to start a conversation with women or any stranger u see. dont expect the girls to come up to you and start the conversation thats not gonna happen. and you cant approach a girl too with just saying "hi" or "wassup"and expecting her to roll the ball. thats never gonna happen. u have to figure out how to get out of that shell because girls are not attracted to shyness.. if u want to know more send me a message and i'll be glad to answer ur questions
2006-11-17 19:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by gca18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are simply thinking with your hormones. If you can find someone attractive just by looking at them, then you deserve not to be spoken to. Shy guys have always gotten the best girls. Most girls want a guy who is into them and not themselves. You need to get confidence in yourself. No one is going to notice you unless you open your mouth and talk to someone. Young girls are into buff guys because of course, they are thinking about sex. The sad thing about that is that all those buff guys have limp (d#c&s) too. So, don't think you are alone. Girls love for guys to have the same interests as they do and to be honest with them. Remember that and you will do just fine. Also, stop trying so hard. You should think to yourself that you are just trying to make a friend. That is the first step in getting to know someone anyway. You will be fine. If you crash and burn, it's okay because there are so many other people out there to meet. The fun part about it is, that you will make lots of friends in the process. Good luck.
2006-11-16 06:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me, the first thing that will get me is a unique looks, whether it's how she dresses, maybe how she carries herself, or maybe she has just a beautiful bone structure in her face that makes her breath taking. But they don't call it love at first sight because it's based off of anything else. From there usually i will notice an amazing smile and a good infectious laugh, and personality becomes the big player at this point. She better have content, or i'm outta there. She needs to be funny, and silly. Can't take herself too serious. Her social standing could matter less to me. Heck, if she's not popular, than she's my little secret and that's great.
2016-03-28 22:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen buddy - I used to be like you-- the point is you have to use what you got - not what you don't-- most of those buff guys the like are dumb so use you brain show her how smart you are and anything else you got goin for you-- It's all about confidence--- girls love confidence-- the reason they are attracted to those guys IS because they are confident with themselves-- plus girls love mysterious guys-- if you act cocky around them and are not good lookin, they want to know what you have to be cocky about-- trust me it works -- but some girls are just shallow so don't worry about them. I'm shy too but I fake it like I'm not. Just find something you like about yourself and be proud of it and girls will fall @ your feet-- just lay off the self- pity they hate that
2006-11-16 06:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by j dizzle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you learn to be more confident in yourself and stop thinking that you are not worthy, then they will start to notice you. It's not easy, but stop thinking about just getting together with them. Women smell fear and that's what they'll see if you continue to be this way.
Start gaining some confidence in yourself. If you believe that you are a good guy, have something to offer the right girl that comes along, then it will show and they'll be more receptive to you when you talk to them. Just make sure the first words out of your mouth aren't "Hi, wanna go out with me?"
2006-11-16 06:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't loose hope honey, I'm am currently ingaged to a "shy guy" the thing that works for us is, I'm an extravert.....thats basically a fancy word for big mouth and out going, and we level each other out...so be patient, some one will come along and snatch you up like I did with mine. you just have to meet that perfect yet a bit crazy right girl
2006-11-16 06:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sistamoon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some girls like shy guys. You won't find out which until you become a _little_ less shy and start talking to some.
2006-11-16 06:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not all girls like guys all buff,tall, and handsome.And i'm those type of girls that would talk to any guy because I like the inside and not the outside.
2006-11-16 06:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
just be yourself some girls are attracted to shy boys good luck x k
2006-11-16 06:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shy guy = get none.
Speak up, cowboy. Get yours. Or the next guy will.
2006-11-16 06:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋