when a guy is jealous...?

Question

...does he get mean?

For example, you have a guy-friend. You start seeing someone else, and he finds all the bad qualities in your new boyfriend to point out.

Is this jealously? Or is it just a protection thing?

Any tips anyone can give me on signs that a guy is jealous?

Answer 1

He is jealous and insecure about your friendship because he probably feel that with a new boyfriend in the picture, you will not have much time and he will gradually lose your friendship. Why not just ask him how he feels and why is it that he only say negative things about your new boyfriend. Maybe you might need to reassure him of your friendship. Good luck.

Answer 2

The situation you mentioned puts a guy in self-doubt... makes him think he a failure at something... Some guys do get mad/mean... and then they strike back by pointing out all the bad things about the new person you are seeing...
Male or female, whenever you are on the non-deciding side of a relationship change, it hurts to some extent... It wasn't his decision to see other people... He may have been satisfied in the relationship he had with you... The jealous thing creeps in when he realizes the other person is getting all the attention and treatment he once got... and the trouble is that most guys won't say anything until it is too late... They'll swallow their pride like everythings cool... Then they will unload all at once... Hurt plays a big roll in this... Remember, men and womens brains are wired different... We feel and act differently to situations... These actions are rarely a protection thing...

Answer 3

It could be both. I know I have been in that situation before. It's a mixture of being jealous, because I bet there is a 99.9% chance your friend, is in someway attracted to you, and while valuing your friendship more than anything, in some way hopes that someday it could work out where you two would get together.

The other part is just a bi-product of the former. He is protective over you, because he is your friend and therefore is going to be protective. Listen to his complaints, be respectful and then digest them as you see fit. Does he have the ability to read people really well? (other than the guy your dating) If so, you may be blinded by your feelings and your buddy may have something.

As long as it's not hindering your friendship, I wouldn't worry about it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

probably both. guy friends know what men really are. Sorry but women have no real idea. They know the finer points to look out for, the signs you are being "played", the signs that he is geniune vs. just wanting to get into your pants. Most likely he is just being protective and with good reason. 99% of men are scum, and the 1% that are good will stick through and prove to you they are worth it, this means they will be paitent and not looking for the quick answer. Your guy friend probably realizes something you don't and it being protective. If there is something good, he would probably not feel as protective or at least admit that he can't find something wrong. Listen to your guy friend he probably knows something you don't. However, if your guy friend likes you, then that is a whole different issue, but still doesn't negate his good intentions to protect you.

Answer 5

I would say it is both
and I would also take a closer look at this so called friend..he just may be a little more than a friend, and you have not noticed it...
so maybe if he is a good catch, catch him and see if things progress...

you have to be careful here, if he is just a real real good friend and he is only trying to protect you..depending how you approach him, it could mess up a friendship if you make him feel like a fool, so take it easy and see if he does care more than a friend...

good luck
smile

Answer 6

Well, it depends on what kinda guy. We would need to know more baout him, personality wise to be able to give you a better answer.
When I used to give that attitute it was because I was pissed off to see her pick up some lowlife, jerk, moron, hippie guy over me. We guys tend to forget that we could be the nicest, funniest, and most caring man in the world but if she doesnt feel attraction to us then nothing its gonna happen.
In time, I learned that nice guys get picked last so it doesnt bother me anymore, now if I know a female friend its dating garbage, I tell her. Not because i like her, but because in time I have learned to speak my freaking mind.
There is also the fact that some people only take care of friends when they are single, once they get involved with someone the friends time goes out the window. If thats the case, maybe he is trying to hint you that "its not like it used to be"
Good luck

Answer 7

Hes jealous and he wants your for him self , comming from some one who did the same thing your friend has for years, he doesnt want to be your friend he wants to be you man. So if you want to hurt him (like i got hurt) then leave him as a friend but if you have other feelings for him which you do other wise you would have asked the question then see if he wants to take another step. Guys are friends with girls because they want a chance and some of us thats good enough some of us its not and we get jealous.

Answer 8

He may be jealous, in which case, you will have to address that, however, if he feels that he is like a big brother, then he is protecting you and doesn't want anyone for you unless they are perfect. No one is perfect...so it keeps the guessing cycle ongoing. Usually, it is a bit of jealousy and it is confusing jealousy at that.

Answer 9

If he is right - only can help you. If he is wrong can be jealous of loosing you to this guy. I'm 100% not jealous and it makes my life smooth and easy. Some people just can't get it and accept the reality, they have a problem.

Answer 10

def. jealously this guy friend might be tryin to protect u but it usually tends out that they did want u after all and now its too late cuz they just cant have u