My boyfriend and I have lived together for a year, and he has still not changed his address. Everything goes to a PO box. Does this mean he is not fully committed to the relationship? I have told him how I feel (that it makes me feel like he is not committed) and he still has not changed his address, although he promised to "take care of it". Am I just being too much of a girl about this? Your thoughts are appreciated, Yahoo friends.
2006-11-16 06:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by Lotus 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a girl - I can answer this. I've had a PO Box for over 8 years. Just because you have your mail sent there doesn't mean your not committed! I've always said I will close my PO box when I BUY a house. Do you know what a pain it is to have your mail forwarded?! That's all it is! I never have to worry about changing my address! It will go to MY PO Box until I decide to change it. A PO Box is very cheap and well worth not worrying about the hassle of having your mail forwarded! It's just a PO Box!! Don't read more into it then it is!!!
By the way - You can't have your mail forwarded (in KY) from a PO Box - You have to contact each and every person that sends you mail and let them know your new address: do you know what a pain that is? Not many guys are wanting to go through all that trouble! I know I don't!
2006-11-16 06:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point but I wouldn’t hassle him about his mail. It is a real pain in the butt to change addresses and he is probably used to getting his mail at his PO Box. A mailing address is a pretty personal thing it feels like your own space to receive things and it really doesn’t have anything to do with not being committed to you. I mean moving his furniture would be harder then filling out a piece of paper at the post office so if he wasn’t committed to you he wouldn’t have moved in with you. Maybe you should send a few of your own mailings to his PO box so it can be both of your guys address, he shouldn’t mind that and then you can feel better about it.
2006-11-16 14:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is saying he is going to take care of it. He needs to. When I lived in an apartment, I still had a PO box, even when my girlfriend and I lived together for security reasons.
If thats the reason, then it would be ok. But it seems like he is just bad at following through and it maybe low on his priority list. He's living with you, don't see how that could translate into a lack of commitment!!
2006-11-16 14:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah..its a Girl attitude! I think there s so much to look at and analys so you can tell if he s 'committed' or not! I guess this is not the only thing going on between you guys.. I mean there must be 100's of situations from which you could sense how serious he is about this relationship. and yes, life is so hectic and we get too busy to care for such a thing. maybe you should ask him once and for all -without fighting or arguing- just ask him in a nice way if he has a reason for not changing it, and if it makes sense, accept it. if not, judging by his attitude in general, it might be lack of commitment or not knowing for how long this relationship will go on, Or it might be he just wanna have some space and privacy.. yeah he might be recieving porn.. so what?? its not bad.
2006-11-18 08:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by mr_dark_eyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are reading into it too much. I moved over two years ago and still have my PO Box as I like my bills going there. It's a feeling of anonymity/privacy of sorts, like having an unlisted number.
2006-11-16 14:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a p o box is not the issue. the issue is that he said he would "take care of it" the question falls back to you -- is he that forgetful--or is he not changing his address on purpose( you are the best one to answer this). however if my girl was worried about this AND we were having problems -- i would make SURE it got done (it would help things at home) .
2006-11-16 17:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by my opinion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being a girl but you're probably not wrong. He probably isn't committed to the relationship yet, but commitment in this old fossil's book means marriage and it sounds like you aren't there yet either.
2006-11-16 14:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by lightning711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changing your address can be a pain in the butt, especially if he has a lot of bills and such.... So I can understand his delay. However, if you've been on him about this for a year, then he is either procrastinating, or being secretive.
Either way, he should eventually change it.
2006-11-16 14:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, he is not commited to the relationship. AND he may be getting stuff through the mail he does not want you to know about.
Lots of luck.
2006-11-16 14:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by raredawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it. i have lots of things like that to change that my b/f would love for me to take care of, but its just a real busy world. Added to that we have a fabulous relationship. Don't read too much into it as yet.
2006-11-16 14:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Crista B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋