My best friend was the maid of honor at my wedding. She made me promise that in the morning I would wait for her before going to the salon on my wedding day. I said as long as she was there before 10am I would wait but that I couldn’t be late so I would leave if she wasn’t there before 10. The next day on my watch it was 10 and she wasn’t there so my sister in law took me instead. My best friend was furious when she got to the salon with her boyfriend and said I didn’t wait for her and that she was there at 10 sharp. I know she wasn’t but I didn’t want to argue about time it was the most important day of my life. She didn’t speak to me the rest of my wedding day, not even to tell me I looked beautiful. Thank goodness my Mom was there helping me get into my dress because my best friend didn’t arrive till just before the wedding because she was busy getting ready herself. She was the first one to leave my wedding, she said she was tired. I don’t understand how she could treat me that way on the most important day of my life? Was she jealous, or did she have a right to be upset at me?
2006-11-16 05:58:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why was she mean? Unknown. Ask her.
Could your watches be set a few minutes apart? Maybe you left at 10 sharp your time, and she arrived 10 sharp on her slower watch. I'd like to think I'd give my best friend the benefit of the doubt.
I think you may have been deep into Most Important Day of My Life syndrome and expected the world to revolve around you: "She didn't speak to me the rest of my wedding day, not even to tell me I looked beautiful." Oy.
Maybe your friend arrived in good faith on what she thought was 10, missed you by a minute, and was crushed that she was left behind. We can't know.
I'm sure you were under a great deal of wedding day pressure.
Perhaps she wasn't thrilled with your reaction to her (possible) tardiness.
The only ones who can clear this up are you and her. Be a responsible best-friend and call her up and see if you can do some relationship maintenance. Listen, take responsibility for your own feelings, and see if you can come to a resolution besides ending it.
Those skills will come in handy in your new marital status.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 06:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was in the wrong, and I'm really surprised she acted that way on your wedding day. But since she is your best friend, I'd recommend you give her a chance to explain. Try getting together for coffee in a quiet restaurant and mention that she seemed pretty upset on your wedding day. With any luck she'll admit how she was really feeling (jealuous about all the attention you were getting, worried that she might never get her turn, overwhelmed by another problem but unable to tell you because it was your wedding etc.).
Since you're best friends, she deserves a chance to explain herself and you'll be happier if there is an opportunity to clear the air.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 06:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by sci55 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she didn't have a right to be angry at you. This is your important day and you have a schedule to keep. She wasn't there at 10am because you were probably getting ready to leave. So she basically lied to you. I wouldn't sweat it. You did nothing wrong. I can't believe she didn't talk to you for the rest of the day. That is just rude.
I am a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding this march and I would never treat her this way at all. It is her time to shine and I would let that happen.
Congrats on your wedding.
2006-11-16 06:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's just into making everyone else miserable. You had every right in the world to have someone else take you to the salon. When she finally showed up - she should have said this instead "oh, I'm sorry about being late. I'm sure glad you were able to find someone else to bring you". It appears you just can't depend on her for anything and she most certainly had no right to upset you on the most important day in your life. One day her stupidy will catch up to her and she'll finally get a taste of her own medicine - then she may come to you and apologize for being so rude.
2006-11-16 06:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She most certainly did not have the right to be upset with you on this your special day. If she was jealous then she will have to deal with whatever issues are causing this. For a best friend to act this way on your wedding day is very selfish and hopefully you can discuss her behaviour with her and let her know how hurtful she was to you. Best of luck with this and have a wonderful and joyful wedded life.
2006-11-16 06:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she was Jealous , don't sweat it .. she will get over it , if she really wanted to be there to go with you , she would of been there way before 10:00.. I know what is like to have people mad at you the day of your wedding , you will never make every one happy, just make sure you had a good time ..
2006-11-16 06:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that happened to you, i know that's gotta hurt. She will definitely regret acting so childish. Have you guys talked since the wedding? There is no excuse for acting the way she did and purely selfish. Are you still friends with her?
2006-11-16 07:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks!!! what a bit*ch you didn't deserve that at all I think she was jealous, it's tough watching your friends get married, I know i went through it but was never mean or rude to any of my friends I was maid of honor once and helped her through it all.....I'm sorry that happened, I'm engaged and hope that none of my friends do that...oh wait ha they're al married i'm the last one.
Congratulations!!
2006-11-16 06:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's jealous and immature. she should have been there at 9:30 to help you get to the salon because that's her job as the maid of honor. with friends like that who needs enemies!! it's okay, she'll regret that she treated you that badly.
2006-11-16 06:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is selfish and definitely jealous. What a bad friend! I hope you had an awesome wedding day and I hope you didn't waste any time thinking about how immature your friend was acting.
2006-11-16 07:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by snippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋