My sister is 22 and just started to date a man and she wants to go to north carolina to meet his family without any children which I think is stupid. She is acting like a teenager. My mother is taking her 4 yr old daughter and my sister's ex fiancee is leaving with his family to atlantic city, I'm the only one close by. She wants me to take care of him, but I have a 2yr old and a 7 1/2 month old, I'm going to thanksgiving with my in laws. My husband hates my family because my father molested me and doesn't want anything to do with them. I don't think he will let me take care of my nephew who is 1 yr old. What to do? My sister refuses to take him.
2006-11-16 05:22:30 · 9 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think she doesn't want to take him, because he has an autistic problem, and he is bowlegged
2006-11-16 05:35:45 · update #1
My husband hates my family for not doing anything to help me, my father was never reported and I was molested for 8 yrs, that's why my husband doesn't want anything to do with my family
2006-11-16 05:37:07 · update #2
Tell her you will not take care of him if the other man wants to date your sister she comes with a package and he has to deal with it she is going to meet his family they should meet he family too she is wrong for not wanting to take them you have your own family. She should be thankfull that she has a family
2006-11-16 05:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by sandilou23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The poor child! The child is the innocent in all of this. Your little nephew has nothing to do with what your father did to you...if in your heart you want to take the little one, ask your husband to have a some compassion for this 1 year old...and maybe you and your husband could be a positive influence in his life.
I cannot tell you DO IT or DON"T because you have your hands full with your own two children....but you could do it if your husband helped with your kids. It's a tough call.
As far as your sister...well, I have to agree that she has some screwed up priorities, but we only have control of our own actions and reactions, no one elses!! I can only think about your little nephew...poor lil guy!
You sound like a clear headed person, I am sure you will make the right decision that is best for you and your family.
Good luck!
2006-11-16 05:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by seaelen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister "tough, You got pregnant, you decide to have it and you decided to take on the role of being a mother. Your choice. Your child. Deal with it as you are not her built in babysitter when she finds a new fling to run off with".
Children come first than a new guy.
My input.
I don't blame your husband. He is a smart man when it comes to not wanting to accept a family that hurts you. I hope none of these babies/children are round this "father" of yours.
2006-11-16 19:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what is she going to do if no one takes him? You don't HAVE to watch him just cause you are family. If you absolutely can't do it tell her. Don't be a doormat. You have every right to refuse if you can't handle the extra little one, you have your hands full already! Tell her if she doesn't or can't take her child then she can't go! Her child is a part of her life, just as much as her boyfriend is. I'm sure his parents wou ld be happy to meet her son. Be strong, she might be mad at your refusal, but you have a life of your own too!
2006-11-16 05:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to say yes. You have your hands full enough with your children and travel for Thanksgiving. She's just going to have to take her son with her. If she's serious about her boyfriend, they're going to find out and meet the boy someday. It sounds like she's trying to hide him away from them. She needs to grow up.
2006-11-16 05:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister her child is not a pet she can just leave anywhere, and he comes with the package. Just put your foot down and say no. People who can't look after their own kids ought to be sterilized.
2006-11-16 05:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by flip103158 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does your father have to do with your sister, why would your husband dislike your sister for that, i was always under the assumption that family was supposed to stick together. i guess the real question is would your sister do it for you?
2006-11-16 05:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by singmelies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her children. She needs to take them with her.
2006-11-16 05:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't take the child you have to much on your plate. Your mother can take him or she has to no if ands or buts about it
2006-11-16 06:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋