Im 24 and i want to have my second child?

Question

I have a 4 year old daughter
Im still with her father but we are not married
I just started a new job 6 months ago and he's not working
Were also a looking for an apartment
I dont want my children to be to far apart in age
under the circumstances what should I do?

Answer 1

if you can support two children and feel it wouldn't be straining on you or your realtionship then go for it... if not hold off... It's not the worse thing for them to be 5 years or so apart. Good luck to you

Answer 2

money will be tight, he needs to get out and be working or you are going to have to live on welfare, around here you would only be living on about $1000-$1200/month if you did.You might want to look into geared to income housing. We get about $1200/month being on a disability pension and just moved into a geared to income townhouse the end of July, we pay $232/month plus hydro and can have a washer/dryer/dishwasher if we want to. I am 25 and my hubby and I are currently ttc a second time. Our son just turned 2 a couple weeks ago.

It honestly doesn't matter how much money you have, cause you are really never going to have enough if you think about it. Before we moved here we were living on $1500/month, our son was and is always fed and clothed appropriately and aside from birthday and Christmas I don't really get any help financially from either of our families. My mother-in-law gave us a little money to get a used washer a few weeks ago when she came for Thanksgiving weekend, but aside from that we make due with what we have. Next to nothing we own is new, but it all works and when it doesn't we find a way to replace it, maybe not right away though.

Maybe now with those circumstances it is not the exact right time for you to be having another child, but if you can make it work without putting anyone's health and well being in jeopardy, then go for it.

Answer 3

If we all waited around for the perfect time to have children, there wouldn't be any! :) If you are ready, i say go for it! If you still have lot's of things from when your daughter was born, that might help lot's. Also, garage sales can be $$ savers too. There's also stores like Once upon a Child- but sometimes you can find good bargins at places like Target and Wal-Mart anyways. It's up to you, what do you really want? Maybe see if your boyfriend will get a job to help out too- you can work it out to where you don't need a babysitter- that's what my husband and I do- work different hours. You made it work with your daughter :)

Goodluck on whatever you decide.

Answer 4

I would suggest you plan a wedding! :) You could have your 4 year old daughter be bridesmaid...she would probably love it. Marriage makes it so much easier to handle things. If you are still with him, it means he is a most likely a pretty good guy. You can keep searching for an apartment during the meantime. I am sure he will find a job once you are setteled in. You would still be able to do your job for a while and after the wedding, go on a little honeymoon...a few months won't make that much difference. Good Luck and I hope everything turns out well for you.

Answer 5

Seriously consider your situation. Can you really afford to have a second child with your boyfriend not working b/c you will be without a job when you are on maternity leave. I understand that you'd like your kids closer in age, but how fair is it to them if you can't afford them and you're stressed about finances? Does the father even want, or ready for another child?

Good luck!

Answer 6

If you can afford a 2nd child and don't mind having another one with no sure means of support from the father, you go right ahead and have one.

Don't forget to consider the fact that the father can up and leave at any moment because there are no legal ties to keep him there and if he isn't working and is not even looking for a job, you'd best be prepared to support your kids by yourself for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

I had my second child at 23, I had just started a new job and we had just moved, money was tight. In the end everything thing turned out fine, we had another baby bought a house and I started a better job and so did my now husband!

Answer 8

i had my first at 17 and second at 21 and third in a couple weeks
financialy if you can do it i would say go for it

but i have heard the saying that if we all waited around for the perfect time to have a baby then we would never have any

good luck i hope you get what you want

Answer 9

He needs to start working.

Spacing of children appears to be the lowest priority on list.

Are you commited to each other?
Can you afford another child?
What are your health insurance issues?
As you know, parenting is really hard.
Parenting two is much more challening than parenting one.

If you are really committed to one another, consider getting married and becoming financially secure before growing your family.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

Let nature take it's course. Two is better than one in my opinion. I have 4. It's not always easy but things work out for the best.
Good luck.