I really don't care for his brother and sister in law. They live right down the street, and we both have children the same age. She is soooo obnoxiuos, and talks about whoever is not around behind their backs. (I am sure she does this to us, too!)
2006-11-16 05:19:20 · 17 answers · asked by Amy L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She also apparently has stated that "she married the wrong brother" and she calls my fiancee's cellphone all the time. I am not worried about him cheating with her. (she is fat, ugly, and annoying) but it is so annoying!
2006-11-16 05:40:37 · update #1
it's too bad they live right down the street from you. they are hard to avoid. if she is so obnoxious, i'm sure your fiancee knows this. so, if he is willing to keep the family relationship going, and you want to keep your relationship with your fiancee going, i think you are going to have to just grin and bear it until you can move away from where they live. i would tell him that you know it's his brother and sister in law, but you have a difficult time around them. your personalities just don't seem to mesh and you don't mind seeing them occasionally, but you cannot put up with on a constant basis. let him realize you are not doing this to cause friction in the family but it's just too uncomfortable for you and you would prefer not to get so involved with them. then, it's up to him to decide - you or them. good luck.
2006-11-16 05:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what, doesn't matter if you tell him or not. If you tell him, you are just going to upset him. Being that you are a fiancee, I'm guessing you plan on marriage at some point, and guess what whether you like it or not, they are now your family as well, We can't pick our families, but we can pick our fiancee, and I'm just guessing but I'd say he's the one you want with or without them, so just plan on spending alot of time with them and grin and bear it.
2006-11-16 13:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by hkattman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl, I know what you are talking about. This is so familiar to me. Well my fiancee's mother is this way. She talks behind everyones back but the funny thing is everyone likes her.. well that what they say when she is around.. but I doubt they do. But the best way to lay low from them is to tell her nicely that some people have come to you telling you that you talk about them and maybe your sister in law will cut back on the trash talking of others because she doesnt want you to be getting harrassed by those she trash talks on. Or you could just tell your fiancee how you feel .. and I am sure that he will understand and maybe he can talk to his brother or sister and settle things because it is making you uncomfortable and you are just not that type of person to trash talk on people. You could also just tell your husband and maybe when you get together with his family have it at your house with everyone around so the trash talking cant occur or just plainly try to avoid the situation of having to be around them when they are getting ready to talk about someone. I wish I was some help.. with my fiancee's mother.. I just say hi and do a little nice talk with her.. but nothing more.. i told my fiancee to stay next to me everytime we go over his mothers house.. so she wont say anything to me about anyone else.. i mean he just sits near me.. or i will ask her if she needs help with cooking and she will leave me to do it.. or I sadly use my kids to distract me so I have to take care of them.. like I have my daughter tell me that she needs me to help her with something so when she sees me with his mother.. i just have my daughter interupt us so i have to go help her.. it works like a charm cause my future mother in law forgets all the trash talking she was about to say or gets busy with something else.. haha
2006-11-16 13:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by sourstraws 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is his brother, you need to leave this one alone or you are going to make more issues for yourself than it is really worth. Just don't worry about her, she will get what she has coming to her and he will figure it out in the long run. Also, men tend to think differently that females and do not allow this sort of issue to get to them. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-16 13:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about how you feel about the sis-in-law. But don't expect him to stop hanging out with them just because you don't want to. You're going to have to hang out with the sis-in-law sometimes... as you're intending to marry into the family. Just suck it up when you're around her and try to be agreeable. It's tough, I understand, but many people in families have to learn to tolerate one another... even if they don't particularly like one another... in order to keep the peace.
2006-11-16 13:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up...I dont really feel comfortable around ur bro and sis in law.... I am sure he feels the same way if this chick is that obnoxious.....and people that gossip they do it about everyone! believe me.....
2006-11-16 13:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy_Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot of FAMILY DRAMA,is the man worth all that?No, they will never change,and will always and forever be his Family.Seems like more than a little hostility when it comes to the female.Don't try to please them, get a new fiancee.Think---NEXT.....
2006-11-16 14:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell it like it is! Besides, its best to be more upfront and honest about his obnoxious family members than to ignore it! Talk to him and tell him how you feel, and hopefully he will understand how you feel about his family members!
2006-11-16 13:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them straight you don`t like them and they musn`t visit you at all.
2006-11-16 13:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by spatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say hey son, don't wna hang Wit Ur fam
2006-11-16 13:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by xXxDolly92xXx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋