I know you're going to tell me to give the guy a break or whatever, but something is not right in this situation. We would talk everyday, and now he just stops talking to me? I sent him a text message yesterday telling him I love him, no response. I sent him another text message today asking if he was coming over tonight, no response.
It's not right for him to just stop talking to me. I thought he loved me. Something is bothering him and he's just going to handle it by ignoring me? Everything was going great. We left on good terms Monday night, but now he's giving me this? Why do guys do this to girls? If they knew how badly it hurt they wouldn't do it. He's hurt my feelings several times, but I didn't stop talking to him!
2006-11-16 05:15:59 · 26 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he was single for 4 years. He said he was happy just hanging out with the guys in the basement. What if he realizes now that he doesn't want a relationship?
2006-11-16 05:18:24 · update #1
Okay, he sent me a text message saying, "Yeah." He's coming over tonight, but this might not be good...
2006-11-16 05:30:49 · update #2
He told me I did nothing wrong, he just had a lot of thinking to do. What does that mean?
2006-11-16 05:35:25 · update #3
He just has no face to tell you the truth hidden behind the doors.
For me is just so stupid acting like that - ignores you, and shut up. You should do everything to forget about him, get over.
If you want - you just speak up to him to find out.
2006-11-16 05:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay girl dont stress it! guys are not good at expressing emotions. Has he said he loves you? maybe things are moving to fast for him right now...give him some space and he will call you leave him a msg telling him you are always here for him and if there is anything he needs to talk about just give you a call. Guys do understand how bad it hurts and some are out only to get some but there are good guys around. If things were good monday night then chances are he's been busy and has a lot on his mind that he isn't sure how to express give him till this weekend if he still hasn't called then go see him and see what is up.. good luck hun
2006-11-16 05:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by bellsbabe26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only 2 options: Give him a couple of days just in case he is sick, or something happened.
Then stop trying to communicate and move on. If he no longer wants a relationship with you and doesn't even have the guts to tell you clearly, he is either a marshmallow or an insensitive person. Either way, you'll be better off without him.
But then again, he may just have temporary problem that will be resolved in a day or two. Either way, stop pestering him.
2006-11-16 05:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by newcalalily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurt ur feelings several times before?
Now he doesn't reply to ur calls or sms?
Not even an "I love u" msg wd move his heart & make him reply?
Are u sure this is really the man of ur dreams?!! Do u want to continue ur life with such a person?
U may not like what I say, but I feel that u need to re-consider the whole relationship.. Stop calling him, don't make him feel u r available no matter how harsh he treats u..
Wait for him to come back, if he doesn;t.. U don;t want to continue being hurt for the rest of ur life....... Move on
If he does come back, he'd better have a good excuse for his neglectance!
Good Luck
2006-11-16 05:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ouzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson learned???
Yes, guys DO realize that they are hurting you... immature guys just don't care!
You should back off, give him the space he needs and when he sees you aren't at his beck and call he will have to make a decision. Hopefully by then you will have met a guy who derserves your affection and won't "hurt your feelings".
Remember, you are a strong, confident woman, ready and able to survive out there in the world without a man to get you by. You are better off alone than with a guy who's going to drag you down.
Go get a life away from this boy and find a guy worthy of you!
2006-11-16 05:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in the hospital, dead or out of town? Or is he just extremely rude and cruel? The thing is this: you say he has hurt your feelings several times but you didn't stop talking to him. He has learned, based on your behavior, that hurting you is OK with you.
I suggest you stop contacting him and start having a little bit more self-respect.
Nothing is bothering him. He knows no matter how much he hurts you, you take it. He doesn't respect you.
2006-11-16 05:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't declare LOVE until you see him express it.
You know when you are loved, you can feel it.
By telling him you love him you may have spooked him, and then by sending
that text so soon you sent him into paranoia.
The ignoring side of it may be he needs time to get his thoughts or feelings
in prospective. This not only happens to girls but boys too.
The pain you feel comes from a high expectation, lower your standards and
measure your words.
2006-11-16 05:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here is what your going to do. Stop talking to him. If he really *Loves* you he will at least text. Just ignore him until he comes out. Besides your dont want to be in love all by yourself. Yeah just ignore him. Then when he finally talks make him feel like **** and dump him. Good luck Kido.
2006-11-16 05:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by M.M.D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just call him and ask him what's up. Try to be open to what he says and tell him what his actions are making you think and feel. No matter how much anything either of you says may hurt. It's just good for you both to talk it through and find a solution that is mutual and understood.
2006-11-16 05:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by JME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has no concern for your feelings whatsoever. He does it because he can. He is not worth your pining over him like this. I suggest you let him hang out in the basement with his friends and get some self respect back. Once you leave him be, I guarantee that he will start wondering why and will probably call you.
2006-11-16 05:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be. I know you want to know answers, but he seems to be dealing with some inner demons. Give it some time. If he comes around...he comes around. If he doesn't, send him a message asking what is going on. That should get the ball rolling. Best of Luck.
2006-11-16 05:29:04 · answer #11 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋