I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've been wanting to ask this girl out for some time now. She is really, really shy. She's the type who won't start a conversation but will talk when someone starts first. We don't really "know" each other, not even names, but we've talked once in the library. She leaves directly at lunch because she takes the bus home. I notice that from a distance she will glance at me and see what I'm doing, then she'll hurry to the bus. We don't have any classes together so its really hard to get in touch with her. My question is this, how do I start something with this really really shy girl? Should I try and get her email or something to get to know her first or should I flat out ask her out so we can get to know each other there? She's really shy so I don't want to come on too strong, but enough to make my point. If anybody has any ideas on how to start something worth while and any ideas on places to ask her out to, please post them.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-11-16 05:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay first are you shy too? if not then approach her when she is alone and ask her to hang out with a group of friends or alone but let her pick. Find out what she likes and what her interests are. so you have a little knowledge and a conversation starter. Dont find her email.. screen name yes but email is searching to hard. its a lot easier over the computer for the shy kinda girl to talk without feeling nervous. good luck
2006-11-16 05:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by bellsbabe26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a girl I wouldn't respond very well if you asked me out in an e-mail. I don't know at all how well you know each other so If I were you I would try approaching her, starting a casual conversation and then saying something like... You know, i know of this (place / party / movie / restaurant / concert) that seems really great and I would love it if you would join me. If she doesn't say yes right away don't be discouraged. Exchange phone #'s and if she doesn't call you in like 3 days give it another shot. If the second try doesn't work there is a chance she isn't interested. But if you catch her looking at you that probably isn't the case. If she is that shy there is a chance she hasn't even been on a date before. Keep it casual. Know where you want to take her before you ask. I don't know where you live but the holidays are coming up and a lot of times zoo's and theme parks will have Christmas light displays that are pretty cool to go to on a casual date. In my area we have something called zoo lights, that is pretty fun. Take her to dinner first then to something like that. There is an idea. Find out what she likes, talk to her friends and base your date off of that.
Wow sorry that was so long but I hope it helped. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-16 05:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is this...ask her out, be sincere, and sensitive but if you aren't making the move she's not the only shy one. I'm 35 and when I was you age I let opportunities go because they involved "risk". You should walk up to her and ask her name, talk to her nicely, be attentive and sincere...its not hard and confidence is a great thing when it comes to meeting people, now just don't cross the line between confidence and arrogance. Ask her out on a simple date, like a movie...dinner even, but if she's shy dinner on a first date can be a bit awkward unless you can get her to open up quick. Hope this helps, and I know taking the first step is tough, but it can make a big difference, and if you never take a risk, then you'll never get rewards.
2006-11-17 13:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start small and go slow. Next time you see her, smile and say hello. Do this a few times. Then on down the road, make a short remark about the weather or some school event. She will be more at ease with you. Offer to carry her books or walk her to the bus a few times.Then, start a short conversation with her. Go from there. Good luck.
2006-11-16 05:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's good once you engage her in conversation, then she's not THAT shy, which is a good thing. I know because I'm the same way.
Do you know where her locker is? Maybe try dropping a note in it and ask her to meet up with you at the library so you guys can chat. Then try to get to know more about her and what she likes. Then you can maybe ask her out to do something you know she likes to do. Or just go up to her and say hey. Start chatting about anything that comes to mind.
2006-11-16 05:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO GET HER PHONE NUMBER FOR STARTS.
ONCE YOU TALK A WHILE YOU WILL GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER A LITTLE BETTER.
SOUNDS LIKE SHE LIKES YOU
2006-11-16 05:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋