he loves me and says we will be fine and wants to have the whole relationship thing but he doesnt want the title. he doesnt want to see other people either. he wants me to love him and everything but i cant wait around forever. is it worth it. does he want something else. how do i make him understand he could lose me before he actually does?
2006-11-16 04:57:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am also confused. Unless he is actually letting you go but letting you down easy, so to speak. My advice is to walk the other way yourself.
2006-11-16 05:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want this guy back he has to want you too. Right now he's not ready. It may be this guy is totally wrong for you and no matter what you feel you cannot make someone change. I would just tell him how you feel - write a letter mebe, it's old fashioned but it will give you the chance to tell him how you feel. If you keep telling him what a mistake he is making it really will not help.
2016-03-19 09:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your job to make him realize anything. Don't waste your life and time to convince some guy you are the one. Let him move on. Waiting around is putting your life on hold and how dare you allow someone to have that much power over you? It isn't worth it. The right man will know you are the one and will not have any hesitation to make you a part of his life. There won't be any confusion. If you settle for this crap check your self esteem out the door. He doesn't love you. He sounds selfish and immature "OH love me and I will go have my fun and come back" We aren't 12 here. MOVE ON
2006-11-16 05:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he walking away? He just wants you to chill. He is already with you.... what are you "waiting around forever" for?
If you are talking about wanting to get married, you have to decide what is more important, having the 'official' commitment of being married, or just BEING with the person you love.
Having been through this myself, now I make a point of finding out whether a person is open to the possibility of marriage within the near future, and I won't get involved with someone who isn't.
2006-11-16 05:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him walk away and see what he's missing...It's like that saying "you don't know what you've got til its gone"...if he cares so much about you he wouldn't be so quick to remove the title. All that is doing is giving him the freedom to see and do whatever he wants while still keeping you in his life...Kinda like he's having his cake and eating it too...I wouldn't put up with that and I would personally give him an ultimatum and if he keeps with his mind set on not having the title as well as the relationship, I would forget about him and wait to find someone who does...
2006-11-16 05:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a risk he is willing to take. I do not doubt the fact that he probably loves you, however the real question is does he want you and only you? No he is keeping his options open. Sweetheart you can't make anyone do what they do not want to do, and if you really want him to see the grass is not always greener on the other side, then let him go. I know it sounds hard to do but eventually it will happen any way.
2006-11-16 05:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by taccol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him go and see how he feels when you guys arent together and have no contact. He will feel like crap without you if he does love you like he says he does. He will eventually call you and let you know that he is ready now. Tell him that if he doesnt want the title, then you guys dont need to be together.
He isnt mature enough to handle this yet, so just let him go his way and you go yours and later on, he will come back and want you back. Wait about a month, and if he never gets back to you, then move on becuz you need a man who is ready to move to that next level and not be afraid of it.
2006-11-16 05:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up all of his stuff, take all of his pictures down, and put it in a box. Let him see what your life would be like without him. It will all hit him at once, and he'll get an instant dose of what it would be to lose you.
2006-11-16 04:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by edu_jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant "make" anyone realize anything. Let him have his space, and dont be so needy, thats a total turn off to men. Play hard to get.
2006-11-16 05:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused
2006-11-16 04:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by isitlove20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋