I tried to push the L word around a little to hard and he's not ready How can i show him i'm sorry, i still love him, I respect the fact thats he's not ready, and that i'm willing to wait.
2006-11-16 04:48:46 · 26 answers · asked by mindblowin8358 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him. Tell him that you realize that he might not be ready to say that and didn't mean to freak him out or anything but you wanted to tell him how you feel. Make sure to include that you are in no way pressuring him and that he can say it if and when he feels ready. Don't say "I'm sorry you don't love me yet" because sounds like you're mad at him and you shouldn't be. When he's ready he'll say it. All you should need to apologize for is making him feel uncomfortable. You could supplement this apology with a present or dinner or something. He will appreciate that you recognize that you made him feel uncomfortable.
2006-11-16 04:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should say to him what you've just said (except the part about being willing to wait) and then stop pushing him to reciprocate your feelings. If you are truly able to respect the fact that he's not ready, he'll see it in the way that you give him the space he needs. It will take time for him to see that you're no longer pressuring him--there's no way to rush it.
Your saying you're "willing to wait" and "you don't love me yet" seems to imply that you expect him to start loving you at some point. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. For you to honestly and completely stop pressuring him, you have to accept the fact that he might never return your feelings.
2006-11-16 12:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel as though you really do love this guy:
You have expressed your feelings to him about your love for him already. He is not at that point with you, yet. It can be very awkward when someone tells you that they love you when it's expected for you to say that you love them too, but you don't love them. There are various types of degrees of love. If you and him have not been together very long, then wait it out. I know that you'd much rather him not say it back truthfully, then to say it back as a lie. The next time you and he are really having fun and getting along (either in person or on the phone) then ask him if you can talk to him about something. Tell him that you don't want it to be an issue and that you understand he is not where you are emotionally and that you think that is okay. Tell him you love and more importantly respect his feelings and that you do love him, but aren't going to push that on him anymore. Tell him that you aren't going to tell him that much, but that you do feel it. I do not think you need to actually apologize for anything!
2006-11-16 12:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt. That word he will say when he is ready. For a lot of people that will be the kiss of death to the relationship. Is something you want to say I know and you need to say it. You have to be honest and being honest is so difficult sometimes because it puts you at risk that you are not comfortable with and maybe not ready for. Think about that ok. Leave it as it is. He will talk about this when ready if ever at all. Good luck.
2006-11-16 13:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since there is no love, don't kiss, hug, touch, caress, lick, fondle, grope, grind, stroke, nibble, or anything on the person who does not return you love. What is the point of being physical with a person who only wants to get some and not make an emotional investment. Then you have to watch out for the fake "I love you". It sounds just like a real "I love you" but unless the guy is willing to try to catch your vomit in is hands as not to soil your matching bathroom rug and toilet cover set while you are stuck on the toilet with a horrible case of "the runs", then it is not real love. Oh, but you shouldn't have to apologize for having emotions and feelings, but you should feel sorry for the chap that doesn't love you back because you are the greatest person ever and he just missed you.
2006-11-16 12:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by initialgoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you don't want to lose him entirely, you need to back off. When someone is chased, unless he wants to be caught, he will run. Since you have already told him the L word, the ball is now in his court. Don't say anything as far as this is concerned and wait and see whether he'll come around. The chemistry between a man and a woman is such a tricky thing, unless both parties feel it, sparks will not fly. Good luck!
2006-11-16 12:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are sorry for pushing him to tell you he loves you. Tell him that you respect him for being honest with you and telling you that he is not ready. Tell him that you are willing to wait for him to be sure that he does love you before he says it.
2006-11-16 12:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off immediately! nothing will make a guy freak out more than when a girl pops the L word before they are ready. work on your friendship and give him space while he heals from that knife you just stuck in his forehead. And for God's sake, do not apologize, it shows weakness and will push him away even more. I can't imagine telling my friend that a girl i was dating told me that she loved me and apologized the next day. be strong, be proud, and don't be neady!
2006-11-16 12:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by healthprof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST DROP IT.... if you keep talking about it, you're still pushing it! Shut up and let him be. It's already out there, he will return the sentiment if/when he is ready.
And don't be stupid waiting too long for someone who doesn't love you - sometimes you have to love YOURSELF enough to let go.
2006-11-16 12:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters you shouldn't be sorry for anything, just hold back and don't say it no more, till he sayz it first, pushing it or saying sorry or trying to make something up to him that really you didn't do anything wrong will just make matter worst, just let it be, and go on with him like normal and do not use that word no more
2006-11-16 12:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by dom_parnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋