ok so this is the deal i was with this awesome guy and things where great. thing is his cousin and i started talking on the messenger and i didnt think anything of it. i only talked to him because it was his cousin, and well his cousin started asking me to meet him places and i never did and stopped talking to him but than started talking to him again. point being is that he started asking me dumb questions like what did i like and told me "you cant handle me". my boyfriend found out and now thinks i cheated on him..so how is that i can prove to him that i didnt cheat on him if nothing ever happened?
2006-11-16 04:42:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You started talking to his cousin again after the cousin had already messaged you inappropriately. Maybe you didn't cheat physically, but when you started talking to the cousin again, you were not honoring the spirit of your relationship with your boyfriend.
Even so, if your boyfriend doesn't believe you when you say you didn't meet up with his cousin physically, your relationship has no trust. Without trust, what's the point?
If your boyfriend doesn't trust you, you'll never be able to prove to him that you're not cheating. I'd hate to be with someone who didn't trust me.
I think you should make more of an effort to be truly trustworthy and then find a different boyfriend who can actually trust you.
2006-11-16 04:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not figured it out yet, the fact that you started talking to the cousin a second time means you had some kind of interest in him even if it was curiosity. In a very small way you have cheated. As far as convincing someone you did not cheat I don't believe you can prove it, especially since the chatting is a minor form of cheating.
2006-11-16 05:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) there is such a thing as emotional infidelity. That's what you were with the cousin.
2) Your bf' feels that you cheated... Actually he knows something isn't right, and concludes it was cheating on your part.. guess what, see #1.
3) Personally, if it feels like this or that, this or that is exactly what it is.. I always go with my feelings right or wrong. The reality is they wont go away on their own.
4) what can you do to save the day???
- I think the best you can hope for is some serious groveling with open honest communication (cmon, you were enjoying the attention to some degree). It's up to the bf to give you another chance or not.
- And don't expect the same level of trust for some time... you shook that up pretty good as well.
- good luck.
2006-11-16 04:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg your chum to offer a reciept from the save or a duplicate of his credit card fact....with the date, time and volume of the acquisition. once you're saying field...i anticipate you recommend there have been diverse condoms. count variety out what proportion condoms are in the field. have been any used? this would possibly not artwork if like 5 of them are long previous. tell her which you never hassle with a condom once you have cheated on her earlier because of the fact it kills the temper. Her suspicion is actual looking, yet all you're able to do it tell her the reality. in case you over do it, she'll doubt you much greater.
2016-10-15 15:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by hric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the conversations saved on your computer somehow then show your bf. Otherwise, it's obvious that he doesn't trust you, and he needs to in order for you two to be in a relationship. Tell him that you love him and that you didn't do it, and if he can't trust your word then move on. You deserve to be trusted.
2006-11-16 04:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋