I'm sooo lonely?

Question

I'm f/22 never had a BF, a guy friend, or a friend. I'm 5'10" 170lbs. 38-35-42. I have acne scars, but they aren't deep. I have thick brown hair going down to my shoulders. My skin tone looks slightly tanned, but is natural (I'm 1/8 Greek). I have a very nice nose, and my eyes are almond-shaped hazel. The only kind of guys who say hi to me are 40-60 year old creeps. (I hate that) I'm so lonely. I have been depressed about it (but I don't let it show). Eveytime I am interested in a guy, I think they may be interested in me as well; but it always turns out to be my imagination. I am an introvert (meaning to some people-shy). I've tried online things, but I just don't care for them. I'm different from other girls. Sometimes I feel like crying because I have no one. When driving home, I sometimes scream. Gosh, I want a guy/man. Maybe I'm too fat and ugly. Fat and ugly. Ugly and fat. I feel like crying now. I hate feeling this way. No man will ever like me I guess...

Answer 1

im sorry hunnie :(....you will find someone who will love you! you just have to waite....the best things in life are worth waiting for :)

Answer 2

Never eliminate an option, the Internet thing. It's not perfect but it's an option. You need to be emotionally repaired. You are depressed and sometimes we need help. Get it. From a Doctor. The first thing I would suggest is to get mad at yourself. Tell yourself you are not happy like this and I'm not going to put up with it anymore!!!!! I'm not crying, instead I'm going to a social place and if I don't do anything else I'll just watch people to see how they act and dress. Dress is important. Maybe you could change your hair. Pick out a style you like and just do it. I happen to love short hair. Not real short. Go social, but start with people watching. Before long you'll say, hey, I can do that. You have to develope some confidence. Gin can help. You are not ugly, you have an ugly persona virus you have to get rid of. And you will if you try. Work on a good smile, but It can't be fake. Just smile like you know something the guy you are talking to don't. Oh by the way, we're not all creeps.

Answer 3

Honey, we all have flaws....thats what makes us different. Don't get so down on yourself, you sound beautifull to me and thats whats gonna attract a man. Be confident and love yourself.. if you do that then it will glow outwards for everyone else to see, also try something different, go buy yourself an outfit that you think you would never be caught dead in, (perferably a slutty outfit, hills and all) do your makeup differently that you would usually do, like find a picture of someone in a magazine that you think is gorgeous and do your hair and make up like her. Then go to a bar that no-one would know you at all, and become a fantasy, pretend your someone else, someone confident. Then flirt your a** off with every man you see, ugly ones fat ones cute ones... ALL OF THEM! but don't spend to much time with any one of them, and then just as everyones wondering who this mistery woman is...leave. Go home, take a bath have a glass of wine and .......well two words for you"Batteries included" trust me after doing this a few times your alter ego may just take over! Either way, keep your head up honey!

Answer 4

Listen, you'll find someone. Or they'll find you. There is no "too" anything. Believe it or not, there are still guys who care more about what's on the inside, than out. There are also guys who want a lil xtra sumpthin on their woman, so don't be so insecure. Just don't give up, there is someone for you who isn't a 40-60 yr old creep looking for a lay. You sound like a really nice girl, so hopefully sooner than later, someone will take notice.
Peace.

Answer 5

I hope you like yourself though. I'm not sure about some of your activities but try & do something different. Exercise programme helps. Try & read more motivational books. Do something to treat yourself maybe once a month or so..like rewarding yourself. Go out to a movie or so. Take a look at your garment..may need to change style & or colours. I know a lot of girls who are on the big side & are doing well with guys & dates. One thing i always notice with these girls-they act & look positive,going for what they want. if you have'nt try some of the above, please do

Answer 6

I am shy, too. You just need to build up the courage and go meet people. Join a group of some sort. Play a sport. Make friends somehow. It doesn't sound like you have any confidence in yourself, and people aren't drawn to the shy, embarassed girl. Go find something that you enjoy doing, and people will be drawn to you when they see you smiling and laughing and having a good time.

Answer 7

Most important, do not consider yourself fat and ugly....everybody is unique and special in their own way.....i found myself in your situation after being married for 15 yrs....i was so lonely and didn't even know where to start to look for companionship....i tried the internet dating sites....most guys were just creeps like you said....but i was fortunate enough to find someone who was just like me on the plentyoffish site and we were just friends emailing each other for over 2 yrs and then he finally called me and we have a wonderful relationship....now i'm not recommending that you depend on these sites....beware 99% of them are not truthful and you don't know what they are after...i was just one of the lucky ones....but try asking your friends if they know of anyone that wants to go out....there are always local single meetings everywhere....you just have to get yourself out and make yourself known to the community.....and above all else love yourself and you will find that people (and men) will love you more for that....i wish you the best of luck :)

Answer 8

So am I... plz do not get me incorrect.... notwithstanding the adaptation is that I an nevertheless in my personal residence even with the actuality that having very few associates nevertheless can't experience like numerous pleasant issue from them... n all my issue for them has further me a very chilly reaction... n being left out..... wish u extra valuable success in looking no longer purely namesake associates yet actual associates.... my proper desires r with u.....

Answer 9

awww... now dont' get mad, because i smiled a bit when i read this: because it sounds like a page out of MY diary when i was really down and out.... just getting ur feelings out u know? it's a good thing. but what u have to do, is learn to Be Positive, and KNOW that u have the power to enhance, and eventually CHANGE any circumstance in ur life!!

here's what i did, and i hope u can take some time out and try it on yourself.. it is worth it, because it is YOU. :)

the catalyst that made me want to change, btw, was when i dated a guy online and he COMPLETELY lied and tricked me into thinking he was a great guy for 2 mo....i realized that i needed to be a Stronger, Confident Woman who can prove I dont' deserve to be treated that way.

so, i started to Work OUT: i went to the gym, everyday, got some stress out.... got a new hairstyle, tried on new makeup, got makeovers.. learned how to take care of my appearance in a way that made me feel Good about myself. i also tried on new clothes and started wearing more stylish things, skirts, etc, that i used to be scared to wear.

next, i worked on my Mind: i tried to excel at work, i tried some new activities, learned more, read more, kept up on current events. the more you Know, the more u have to discuss and talk about w/ other people.

finally, i worked on my Relationships: w/ family first, then friends, then freinds of friends, and eventually strangers (teachers, employers, coworkers, people at the book store, etc etc). once u realize that what other people think doesn't matter as much as how YOU think about yourself, u will stop being as shy. :)

and this helps u make all aspects of ur life more positive..and what happened to me was i ended up meeting boyfriends the "normal" way.... at a friend's birthday party, and then at church (my current boyfriend). :) i am so glad i went thru all of that negativity in my life though, because i can look back and truly be proud of myself now~~ don't worry girl, u can always change tomorrow.. no matter how slowly or fast, u can do it. just try, and be positive Always~ stay true to waht is Positive, Healthy, and Happy, and u will be fine. good luck

Answer 10

True love never see your eyebrows,hair,shoulders,fat,eyes or whatever you mentioned above.You are not alone and shall never be.You will find a real man who will love whats in depth.He will love you just as you are.Love never sees flaws.I am in love with a man whom all my friends consider very ugly.but i am shocked and surprised when they describe him as ugly coz i never saw him that way.i fell in love with his internal qualities.He told me many times that he was ugly and i should'nt be loving him.i see no reason to actually stop loving him.to my eyes,he is ever beautiful.your man will see in you what you really are,the wonderful qualities that you have,somethin that define you as a person.dont stop worrying about your outward appearance.Love sees what the rest of the world doesnt.One day he will make you feel beautiful.so smile always.that will add to your beauty.Good luck,God bless.

Answer 11

Hey! Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm 17, and I've never had a girlfriend before. Who cares? You just have to keep your head up, and love yourself for who you are. Good luck, I hope you feel better about it soon, because you shouldn't make something like this get you down!

Keep the faith :)