I mean it's just sex, right? Your rational mind tells you it means nothing, and yet, when you find out, it's like having someone smash a glass over your head. Over and over again.
2006-11-16 04:32:01 · 12 answers · asked by Snowth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for your answers, I will be passing them on to my two faced ex shortly.
2006-11-16 04:47:40 · update #1
I am sorry. I really misinterpreted the question. Oh yes, while I thought and assumed that you may have committed that yourself, I really felt sad for you when I actually read your note later on. I am sorry. I did not know that you were a victim to this situation.
Yes, but like i said before it is just sex, but then again, as i said before it does come with some sort of an emotional feelings. I mean obviously what is hurting you is that although you are trying to convince yourself that it is only sex, your mind asks you a thousand questions like, how could he ? how would he have done that without any feelings, without any emotions ? emotions that were only meant for you...oh yea, now i can really understand that it would be a real shock for you. You have been cheated, by a person who meant the world for you. I am sorry again, that is awful, but then this would be a time to really analyse your own individuality. Would you want your individuality to be linked with someone who has anyway ditched you, or would you like to survive this lowest of low phases, by coming out of it, and putting the past behind you. Did he ever attempt to work on your relationship ? If he did, though it hurts, you could give him a chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. If he really loves you, probalby he has already realised how bad it was, and really wants you back. But then, since you said ''ex'' probably you must move on. As I said, you need to create your own new world. Shut yourself away from all those negative thoughts, and just rejuvenate yourself, like making an absolute U-turn from your normal daily life, by making new freinds, meeting new pple....while you really cant stop thinking about it...its all in your hands to work it out now.
2006-11-16 04:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity hurts because you put your love and trust into another being and they break that trust and damage that love. Truth of the matter is, infidelity is not always "just sex." It can be emotional and physical and tons of other things. I believe the guard in which we put up talks ourselves into thinking that it means nothing, but it really does, and then we get confused and even MORE hurt. Infidelity just hurts period. I don't know what you're going through, but whatever it is, I hope you get through it!!!
2006-11-16 12:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it hurts and bad. First of all we would like to think that we are the "only one" for the other side. We would like to believe that he or she thinks we are the best, and here comes the dreadful news that its NO, you are not the best, you are not the only one. The partner you cherished and loved and trusted has betrayed all of your feelings because he or she shared the most intimate of all things, the physical side of the relationship. It hurts so much it brings people to do the most awful things.
2006-11-16 12:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Josephine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't just sex to some of us. It is so much more. For me it is a personal, emotional,expression of my love for my husband. It would really hurt if he were to betray me in that way. I would feel he did not truly love me and what we have together if he could risk giving it all up for personal selfish gratification with someone else. It is about our relationship, not just sex.
2006-11-16 12:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is the ultimate sharing a man and woman can do. It is meant for married couples that have committed to each other to be the only one. when that committment...trust...is broken....it shatters...and yes....just like a glass over your head. With prayer and love it can be overcome but never totally removed...
2006-11-16 12:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because your trust has been betrayed. If your boyfriend or girlfriend promises you they will be faithful and doesn't that hurts the soul of you. If they didnt promise that then is yours to own. You dishonored yourself by not being honest with your feelings. Either way it hurts babe. But we all learn.
2006-11-16 12:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never "just sex". God intended sex to be between husband and wife. Its a special bond between 2 people. 2 souls have come together, and formed ties. soulties. Thats why it hurts and is very difficult to let someone go with whom youve been intimate with.
2006-11-16 12:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because its abuse of trust. If you trust someone to be faithful to you and they cheat, it's betraying possibly everything you ever thought about that person. It means the way you judged that person was wrong, and then, most of the time, you end up doubting yourself, which is pants!
2006-11-16 12:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a natural re-action isn't it to feel hurt
2006-11-16 12:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it kills the trust...it's betrayal and lies...yeh go for it...print this lot and ram them down his throat
2006-11-16 13:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋