Have you ever experienced any situation where you're thinking about someone else..but at the same time, you already have a boyfriend..and you just cant think of any anything besides him..I know its awful but, I just cant help it..and I cant break up with my boyfriend because he will definitely kill me, because I am his first girlfriend..let me put it this way, I have to be with my boyfriend because I'm the first girl that he touches..so, whether i like it or not, i have to be with him..
2006-11-16 04:24:44 · 20 answers · asked by Diana85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kill you? I'm sorry, but that is sooooooooo not normal! You need out of that relationship anyway--- consult the police!
2006-11-16 04:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to be with him, you are not married and you are not chained together. Yah, you may have done stuff but obviously you care about this other guy more if you are constantly thinking of him. If your mind is on this other guy and not your boyfriend, the best thing to do for you and your boyfriend is to break up and move on. Even if you don't end up with this guy you are thinking about constantly, your current relationship is not stable or healthy because the feelings don't seem to be mutual.
What do you mean by the statement he will kill you? If he is abusive, which I don't know if he is--but it seems implied in your statment, you need to break up with him, but have someone (preferrably a guy) with you when you do. You do not deserve to be abused or whatever may be happening if you feel you can't break up with him b/c he will "kill you" or because you are the first girl he has been with.
We cannot all end up marrying our first loves and your boyfriend must realize that.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 04:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not mean to sound rude.
but, by your question, I would have to think you may be too immature to have a boyfriend period.
(my reasons for thinking that??)...
Um...he will "kill" you if you break up with him...i can only assume you meant figuratively.
..If you think you need to stay with a boy because you were the first girl that he "touched"...then you have a lot of learning and growing up to do before you should be dating any one at all.
break up with the boyfriend...and just hang out with guys...have fun...but wait until you're a little older/ mature before you get involved with ANY one else.
2006-11-16 04:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shakira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To Diana85 I say go to MTV overdrive and watch these All American Rejects sing "Move Along" as many times as needed, for their wise advice to penetrate that heavy layer of bone you are wearing. And do not back down from a fight, when you are fearless this is when opportunity reveals itself. Freedom feels pretty good, especially if you have to kick some *ss to get it, yes? Yes, I believe this is so. On a more serious note, when you meet your soulmate, if you are destined to do so in this lifetime, I believe strongly that you will feel differently than a mere attraction. When I saw my wife twenty-three years ago, I was amazed, as though I had a memory of her from before I was born. When she spoke it was a voice I had heard long before I had been born in this particular body. When the memory of a soul is stirred, it feels deeper than your body is accustomed and you recognize something extraordinary is taking place. I am not saying we always marry when this happens. It can occur between a grandfather and his grandchildren, between student and master, between mother and daughter...Above all, you feel as though you have stopped growing, and need to reach out, do not be afraid to "move along." Thank you.
2006-11-16 04:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by monk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, you are not obligated to your boyfriend just because you are "The first girl he has touched", get that silly thinking out of your head.
"He'll kill you", EXCUSE ME?? No, not a healthy way to think of your relationship and it sounds like you're staying with him out of duty rather than a wanting to. You have years to do that, it's called marriage.
Get out of this silly relationship and enjoy your life and call the person who is occupying your thoughts.
2006-11-16 04:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by FoxyFoxy, Kickass Drama Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your going through sounds simple to fix. you are in 1 of two situations:1. ethier you really dont want to be with him or 2. you really do love being with your guy but you saw someone who is beter eye candy but you need to stop and think how good your live is with your guy even though you seem to find a flaw in him (which is why your cant stop thinking of someone else) but if you know he will flip if you ever broke up with him- u need to end it now because u obviously need room to fly now and then. maybe suggest a brake? hope i helped!
2006-11-16 04:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by the helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do whatever it takes to get out of the relationship. Go ahead and start formulating your escape. You obviously are over him and you would be doing him a favor by cutting him loose in the long run.
2006-11-16 04:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by hulkgammarays 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what he thinks, all that matters is your happiness. Don't lead someone on just because you think they will be happy. You don't have to stay with him, you are probably young, don't tie yourself down. Have fun while you can. And if this guy is abusive, consult the police, if he threatens you "protective order"
2006-11-16 04:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by moaehahi1979 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its your choice if you want to be with him or not. and the "kill" you part. if that is tru legal actions need to take place. because that boy is crazi. but if you really want to stay with him do it. you can think about someone else all day long, as long as you dont carryout the actions you are thinkin about (cheating)
2006-11-16 04:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Walter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?????????? You HAVE to be with him why?? oh Girl, thats the craziest thing I have ever heard of. And umm if you think that he'd REALLY kill you, then yes, all the more reason NOT to be involved with him.
2006-11-16 04:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋