I go to an all girls grammar school and every so often we have discos with the boys grammar school. So I always get excited and start making a fool of myself by saying things like "you're really fit" to boys I haven't seen before and they think I'm weird! I just can't help myself, even when I try telling myself to behave.
Please help!
It's so embarrassing after!
2006-11-16 04:02:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question mark in the title was supposed to be an exclamation mark.
2006-11-16 04:03:51 · update #1
its called being nervous and just a little bit intimidated by boys... all very normal and not weird at all. one thing you shouldn't be intimidated as you seem to be getting lots of attention from them and having plenty to dance with...the problem is once you get them you're not quite sure what to do with them...again very normal. consider this, nervousness is normal, relax recognize this is going to happen and just let it go...i'll just bet the whole time you're heading out to the dance floor you're thinking 'don't say something stupid, don't say something stupid....' and of course you do because that mantra is playing in your head, you doom yourself before you even get out there. try replacing that sentence with something else like 'you're a good dancer' or 'hey have you seen such and such movie' repeat this to yourself before and as your meeting ppl, concentrate on the other person rather than on the fact you are so sure you're going to screw it up...you're just setting yourself up that way. bottom line, you're obviously good looking and friendly and those two things alone are extremely attractive but add the fact you are bright and well spoken and you're a winner...you just been listening to a negative 'mantra' in your head..you can change it, really you can. hang in there, be confident and take heart that they obviously want to dance with you or you wouldn't be getting asked so much and remember they are as nervous as you are maybe more but are so scared they can't even speak, at least you're speaking. don't be so hard on yourself, you're just human
2006-11-16 04:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are too eager and still very young, we do blunder. You are not the only one. Relax, try not to expect something out of boys. Think them as friends, just like the girls you know and talk to them casually. It doesn't have to be something so smooth or catchy or the 'in' thing to say. Share your interests, ask them about theirs just as you would ask a girl. Observe, smile, be nice and pleasant always, and never over friendly. Take your time getting used to boys. You are so young. You will know how to handle yourself better by the years.
2006-11-16 04:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have a hard time in social situations. Try gradually getting involved in other social activities, SLOWLY. After a while you will find your comfort zone. I'm 30, & I get nervous & talk A LOT as a defense of sorts, sometimes. It's not as bad as you think it is, we always see ourselves worse than others see us. Give yourself time, & try to work on it. Good luck!
2006-11-16 04:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just say something like "Would like to dance with me?" Boys of that age get embarrassed by complements.
2006-11-16 04:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and awkward right now but you will get better at talking to boys as you get older. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, they are just as nervous as you are.
2006-11-16 04:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to cool down and think before saying any thing and start hang out with boys that way you will get use to them
2006-11-16 04:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I see no mistakes in the question you have provided us with, mostly we like when girls tell us we're fit. Maybe they have very lo self-esteem.
2006-11-16 04:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by legendaryriku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know then stop behaving like this.Try to focus on other things and talk with the boys about something else.
2006-11-16 04:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your mouth can be your own worst enemy! Believe me I know. Think before you speak next time. Good luck!
2006-11-16 04:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gork say have fun gork think girl should be self and not worry about what other girl think. gork think if people dont like girl for who girl is then people are not friend to girl
2006-11-16 04:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Unfrozen Caveman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋