- have a guy friend that i like. we slept together three times, as friends with benefits. then he said we should back off for now because he only likes me as a friend.
- when i mention a new guy i might be interested in, he seems interested in what i am saying, but is quick to point out the bad qualities the guy possesses. he gets really over-protective.
- he never compliments me, because he says he would be leading me on. but he is quick to point out all the stuff he DOESN'T like about me. It hurts my feelings and we wind up getting into aurguments.
- if i don't call or contact him within a few days, he thinks i am mad at him.
- he says that nothing i ever do will change the fact that he only likes me as a friend. that he will never be interested in me romatically at all. which stings, because i hate to be ruled out all together.
- when i mention any other girl he is talking to, he is quick to state that he isn't sleeping with any of them, just talking. "i could have anyone, but i haven't had sex with anyone else.." - which, i'm ruled out, why would i care?
anyone have any ideas here? because i am getting sick of the back & forth stuff..
2006-11-16 04:02:44 · 7 answers · asked by lickablecake123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like he is trying to convince himself that he doesnt have feelings for you. If he backed off of sex because he says he only likes you as a friend without you bringing feelings up, it just give me the impression that he was beginning to develop feelings and was scared of that.
Talk to him.
2006-11-16 04:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by MomOf2Girls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah this is a toxic relationship. You can continue the friendship if you limit the topics of conversation, i.e. stop talking to him about other guys you are considering dating or are dating. It sounds as though he doesn't want you but wants you to continue to want him and not be with anyone else. Back off from him a bit, and if he wants to think you are mad so be it. You can state that you are not and then let whatever happens happen. If he is telling you he won't consider you now or in the future, why waste your time wanting or hoping. Chances are he just not ready to settle down with one steady relationship and wants to play the field. I'm also guessing that he may be telling you that he is only talking to these girls so that you don't turn away completely. He wants you on the back burner. So take yourself off and do what makes you happy.
2006-11-16 12:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should stop all the contact with him because all hes using you for is for sex and he is always hurting you. find someone better than him you deserve better! dont stay with a friend w/ benefits if all he does is hurt you everyday go for the guy that you like and forget about your friend with benefits. find someone who truly cares for you and wont just use you for sex. be happy no one deserves to be hurt and misused.
2006-11-16 12:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe JEEBUS is correct, and has put things very nicely for you her words are... sarcastic yes? And Elvira is also correct, you are backburner girl. It is better to share less information about yourself with this...bozo. Do not be backburner girl. Let your actions be your primary voice, they are always speaking the truth, yes?. Thank you.
2006-11-16 12:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by monk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you single so whenever he gets bored with a girl he'll have u as a backup. just keep giving him asss and dont think too much
2006-11-16 12:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control freak to me he wants you but doesn't want anyone to have you.
2006-11-16 12:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's jealous, noone is good enough for you but him.
2006-11-16 12:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋