I'm having boyfriend trouble?

Question

me and boifriend fight so much and only over dumb stuff but im the type of girl who is very sentenmental and cries about every thing he knew it because that is on eo fthe first things i told him and lately he has been saying some really mean things and i tell him because im very open with him and i tell him how sad i feel and he says he is going to change and does for like 2 days and goes back to his old way some one help please

i have been with him for a year and two months when we first started dating he was perfect but little by litlle he started walking away while i was talking to him he would say mean things like stop being npsey when i would ask whats wrong and he makes me even more sad because he says im going to change and it brings my hope up for nothing because he goes back to his old ways in like 2 days and then when we fight its so easy for him to make me happy all it takes for him to do is hug me and that will make me happy and for me i have to beg him to please forgive me

Answer 1

it's very difficult for anyone (man or woman) to change like this...

he has to REALLY want to change, and change permanatly... tell him next time that the same thing happened befor, and it's starting to get to you really badly...

personally, i don't think this relationship is going to last to much longer, but that's up to the both of you...

Answer 2

I would break up with him as soon as possible. This reasonship a sign of trouble. People that treat their g/f like that are more likely to become abusive in the future. Most people that say their going to change, never do. Their are red flages everywhere. You should find someonebody that treats you with respect and doesn't call you names. A little aruging is normal, but not if their going to call you mean names. Another thing to consider is do you plan on having a future with him, and by that I mean, do you plan to marry him and have kids. Do you really want to bring your kids up in that hostil envirement. Statisics so that kids raised in the kind of enviorment are more likely to verbal abuse as long as physical abuse their girlfriends, or wives.

Answer 3

If he isn't stopped his behavior, even after you told him that it's hurting you, it's time to make an adjustment.

A man who would go into verbal abuse isn't far away from physical abuse. You NEED to step in and make a decision of whether or not you should move on.

Personally, I would suggest moving on. He's being a class A jerk, and it's only going to get worse. Everyone says that s/he will change--believing it is what gets abuse victims in trouble.

Don't think that because he likes/loves you, that he will stop. Tell that to the thousands of women killed by their lovers even though they believed that love was enough.

Answer 4

You sound like a soft hearted type girl. You need a soft hearted type boyfriend.

There's nothing wrong with having an ole softie kind of personality. That's the way you are, and you have every right to be that way. Trying to change yourself to be a hard nosed individual won't work. It's just not your nature.

So, if you're going to be happy in life, you need a guy who understands you and doesn't want to use his understanding of the way you are to hurt you. Your boyfriend sounds like someone who has a need to hurt others from time to time. He probably can't help himself. It's just his nature. What he's doing to you now can very well be a sign that he may grow up to become a wife abuser, or some other type of criminal sometime in the future.

You need to get away from this guy and find a nice guy for yourself instead. I know that might seem difficult to you, but it's the best thing you can ever do for yourelf. And believe it or not, it's not that difficult to do. All it requires is patience.

To help you down the right path to a really nice guy, keep in mind that we all have doubles. Many of them. Yes, there are people out there who look just like you. If you think your boyfriend is irresistably cute, keep in mind that there are many others out there who look just like him, but are nice instead. Don't think that you'll never find anyone as cute as him. They are out there. And some are probably even cuter. So bag your current boyfriend. You need to hook up with one of his doubles, the one who will be nice to you.

In my lifetime so far, I know of at least 4 people who look just like me. One I saw on a talk show on TV. The other 3 I learned about from people I met at the local grocery store. One lady thought I was her dentist until I responded and she noticed that I looked like her dentist, but didn't talk like him. Another woman thought I was her psychology professor from UCLA. Same thing, my tone of voice was different, and she realized I wasn't who she initially thought I was. And a store employee thought I was the preacher from his church. I didn't tell him I wasn't. He's probably out there still thinking I am. I've taken the time to tell you about this because I want you to understand that we really do have doubles. Movie stars have them, and we do too.

The right guy for you is out there, and he isn't the one you're with right now. Be patient. You'll find him, and you'll know it when you do. Then you can both, at times, sit on a park bench and shed tears over the fact that some terrible person carelessly trampled over a flower bed in the public park, and at other times, you can skip down a path holding hands and be delierously happy that you found each other and are so much in love.

In the meantime, if anyone asks you who your boyfriend is, or whether you have one, just say that you haven't found the right one yet, and you believe wating for the right one is important. Then smile with the knowledge that you've got a plan for happiness with someone very special who just happens not to have made himself visible to you yet.

Answer 5

How long have you two been together? Don't let him treat you bad and tell him that you want it to work, but all the fighting over stupid stuff has got to stop!

Answer 6

Drop the boyfriend. Get to school. Go to English class.

Answer 7

I dont think you can ever change anyone to be honest. A lot of people think you can, but its generally fair to say that a leopard doesnt change its spots.

Answer 8

oh my lord me too. like sometiems i feel like my boyfriend forgets about me. but he really doesnt. he loves me to death. i think he has ADD and were gonna get him tested. but im very emotional like you too. im in counseling now for it. i try to control it and sometimes it works. but i get upset over the stupidest things too.

Answer 9

You need to take a break from each other. only then will you realize whether or not it is worth it.

Answer 10

ok well you need to leave!!!! take a break let him feel bad!!!!! trust me!!!! have you ever heard the sayin "you dont know how much you like or love someone or even care abouit them until they are gone!!!!!!!!" try it it works!!!