My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over 2 years. We used to live together but I've now moved away for University so we only see each other on weekends. We've been talking about marriage on and off for about a year now and about two months ago I suggested it (somewhat like a proposal, but more of a suggestion) and he said he'd like to wait a bit longer (around 3 years) so I dropped the subject. The thing is, since then he's been talking about the future a lot more, like where we're going to buy a house and where we're going to raise our kids, and last weekend he asked me to marry him, only when I asked if he was serious he said 'no'. So now I'm confused. Could he just be messing with me cos he knows it's what I want? Advice?
2006-11-16 03:59:04 · 8 answers · asked by MS1465 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let him get through college, to a point where he thinks he can support a family. Then it will be easier for him to make decisions. It sounds to me like he wants to be with you but he knows he needs to take care of school first, to make both of your lives better.
2006-11-16 04:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does plan on marrying you because he is talking about your future together, but like you said he just wants to wait longer. If you really do want to spend the rest of your life with him then what's another year of being together and not engaged? I would say wait for the 3 year mark, if a short time after that he doesn't mention anything maybe again say that you would like to get engaged. You don't want him to feel pressured because then he might back off like men do. When the subject does come up don't be mad at him for wanting to wait, be positive about it and know that it will come exactly when the time is right for the two of you!!!
That is kinda mean to ask you to marry him and then say he wasn't serious. I know that would really hurt my feelings so if he does that again make it clear to him that you don't find it funny and you don't want him to ask you again unless he is serious.
Good Luck!
2006-11-16 12:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would drive me nuts.
Play hard to get and let him know what you want and if he doesn't want it right now then let him know that someday some man will and you will have the husband and family life that you have always wished for. Time flys by girl. Don't wait if he doesn't take you seriously. It is not right and the game is not to be played forever. Marry first and Don't put your name on anything until you are married. NO don't sign for a car, a house, nothing and don't give him any money!!!!
2006-11-16 12:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to really love you and if he was talking about where you are going to buy a house and where to raise your children then he seems excited about your future together, maybe when he asked you to marry him but "wasnt serious" he was testing you to see if you are serious about it....to see how you would react, maybe he is going to ask you soon but wants to figure out a special way to do it, trust me if he loves you then the proposal will come soon enough, try to be patient even though its hard but also try not to worry!
2006-11-16 12:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by emg2528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough One. The reason its tough is because you really are stuck in limbo. Some men are truly serious about marriage and really want it to last forever so they won't propose completely unless they KNOW it will BE forever. Others toy with the idea but never really have the intentions of going through with it. It seems to me like he's stuck in the middle... I think you should ask HIM what you've asked us on here....Does he WANT to marry you?? See what his answer is.
2006-11-16 12:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrage scares a lot of guys.' sounds like he just wanted the friend ships, but not the commitments
2006-11-16 12:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds confused. Like he doesn't know what he really wants. Give it time. You'll get your answer soon enough.
2006-11-16 12:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask this question dosen't that tell you all you need to know?
2006-11-16 13:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by beddybeddy83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋