I have been going with my girlfriend for a month now and i thought everything was great. Until she accused me of cheating with her bestfriend. WHICH IS NOT TRUE. her friend likes me and is tryin to break us up. she says stuff like, i was talkin to her on the phone and was tryin to get with her. SHE IS LYIN HER *** OFF. she be callin my phone all da time. and when i confront her about it she wont let up. she is ruinin our relationship. and my girl is believing all of this. I seen her in school today and she gives me a mean look and walks away. i really like her what should I do.
2006-11-16 03:54:58 · 26 answers · asked by Walter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're what...around 16?
While I'm sure she's a great person, you really don't need this stress. Honestly, I would make her sit down, tell her to listen to you for the next 2 minutes, and tell that her that through her insecurities, she is allowed her friend to break you two up, even though you could never cheat on her. Explain that by believing her friend your relationship is crumbing and you are wanting to throw in the hat unless she can trust you.
2006-11-16 03:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give the friend the opportunity to talk to you. If she calls you, don't talk to her. Confront the friend in front of your girlfriend and keep trying to prove to her that you do not like her friend. She will probably believe her friend over you because you guys have only been together for a month. So i would ask her friend in front of her to stop interfering with yalls relationship and tell her if she was a true friend then she would want her friend to be happy. Make sure your GF hears and sees this whole conversation between you guys.
2006-11-16 12:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you can always put a tape recorder in you pocket and try to get her friend to admit what she is doing. For example, go up to her and ask her why she likes you so much and why she's trying to break you guys up. Just make sure you're subtle about it. Then, you'll have physical proof to present to your girlfriend.
In the meantime, try to explain to her that trust is important in a relationship. Tell her that you know it's hard to believe you - because of the accusations her friend is making - but you're telling the truth. If she won't talk to you, you can write it in a letter and deliver it to her.
Good luck!!
2006-11-16 12:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I kinda get where your girlfriend is coming. But you can only reassure her up to a point. Just explain to her the entire situation. If she believes you then you both need to have a talk with her friend and explain most emphatically that you're not interested in her. If she doesn't then I say you're better off without either of them. You're young and there are plenty more fishes in the sea.
2006-11-16 12:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really hard, a girl's bestfriend is supposed to be believed over the boyfriend especially that early in the relastionship. maybe you can set it up so your g/f can catch her or something i dont know but your not going to win the plain old he-said she-said because most likely she gonna believe her best friend. but i agree you should also make it clear to the bff that you are not into her, never will be and even if you guys break up, she wont get you.
that really sucks, hope i helped a bit.
2006-11-16 11:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by tauruszodiacfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear your anger....first off...don't get defensive...every woman in the world is suspicious of defensive...shower your girl will attention and affection...SHOW her how much you care...actions speak WAY louder than words....
Tell the lyin lil' b---- that even if she succeeds in breaking the two of you up....you wouldn't go out with her anyway, so all she is accomplishing is hurting HER best friend!
If it's your cell phone she's calling....get caller ID...and then don't answer it....show the recieved call log to your girlfriend.
Good luck to ya....hope your lil' lady realizes what shes got!!
2006-11-16 12:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell her, and the friend,when the girlfriend wants to believe you --to give you a call.I think they have a game going, so when they really don't like the boy they act like the other one is getting hit on by him.In other words, she's not digging you....Sorry.
2006-11-16 12:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if your girlfriend doesn't believe you and isn't trusting you, what sort of relationship do you think you're having? Sounds to me like this is a waste of time. If she's not going to believe you or trusting you.
Just say "bye, bye!"
2006-11-16 11:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like your girlfriend and don't want to jeopardize your relationship then you should all meet and talk about this.
All 3 of you and put it to rest and you should make it clear to the friend that you don't want her calling you anymore. If you should do anything it should be with your girlfriend and the friend if she want's to get together.
2006-11-16 12:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Dori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't trust you after something as tame as this, then how can you expect her to trust you when something important happens? Maybe you would be better off finding a girlfriend that would believe in what you say.
2006-11-16 11:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by krabat0000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋