you see my b/fhasn,t had sex in a year and i haven,t had sex in 5 years we ben toghter for 3 mths now and he wants sex so bad but i really don,t you see my ex husband had killed himself in my house and my new b/f wants to have sex here but i just don,t feel right about this. even if my husband did kill himself because of me i know that he and i wasn,t getting along at this time so why can,t i make my b/f understand that i need time to forgive my husband forleaving me and my son please tell me what i should do
2006-11-16 03:53:48 · 15 answers · asked by dar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, this is a really hard question...
First off, if he's presuring you, tell him to stop... I would suggest that you tell him exacly what you said to us here...
also, in the question you posed you said you didn't want to have sex in that house, implying that you would elsewhere, but then your talking about not wanting to because you have yet to really get over your late husband... I think you need to sit down (alone) and really think about what it is that you want and need... maybe being in a relationship isn't the right thing for you yet....
These are just thoughts, and so you know a little more about me, i'm a 26 year old computer programmer, but was in a rather long term (considering my age, it was 3 years) relationship that ended badly, then was completly single for 6 years or so and have just recently started dating again... i've found a woman i love, and can't imagine life without.
2006-11-16 03:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm NOT a guy and haven't been in that sad situation about your husband and what he did but maybe being in a relationship isn't healthy for you or fair to him until you accept theres nothing you could have done to keep your husband from doing what he did. He was just mentally unstable and be glad no physical harm came to you or your child in the process of what he did.Go to group theraphy.God Bless !
2006-11-16 12:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. get the F. out of the house. Why R U still there?
2. get a Hotel room.
3. Go to his place.
4. Go camping.
2006-11-16 11:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just take some time out for u and ur b/f/ and talk to him and let hime know like this look i cant do this until i forgive me ex for killing himself and until then the answer in still no
2006-11-16 11:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by derrick_green19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the bed woman an get on with your life your husband killed his self not you so drop the linen an get to grinning
2006-11-16 11:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by bigdogrex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really loves you he would undertstand. and let him know that. tell him what happened in that house if you already didnt and how you feel about having sex in a house that your ex killed himself in. i know it give you horrible vibes. and i would suggest moving soon. dont stay their. hope my advice helped
2006-11-16 11:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Walter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sought counseling? My wife passed away suddenly almost 5 years ago and I've moved on,,:-(=
2006-11-16 11:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a woman whos husband did that in their house, she was mental until she moved out.
to many demons there, isnt this a no brainer?
2006-11-16 11:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time and go to grief counseling. If your bf doesnt want to wait, then he's not worth continuing a relationship with.
2006-11-16 11:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rum_Punch_Girlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a therapist - 5 years is too long to blame yourself for someone elses irrational act. life is too short!
2006-11-16 11:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋