My boyfriend says he loves me and i know i love him but, hes cheated on me with 7 other girls what do i do?

Answer 1

i'm sorry don't get offended but....what is wrong with you?????? if he says hes batman will you believe him? come on leave him u can do better

Answer 2

I know it hurts to hear, but you need to get this man out of your life. He is bad for you.

Love doesn't include cheating, lying, OR (think about this) he's risking YOUR HEALTH. I'm afraid even if he says he was careful, do you want to risk any of the many things he might have caught from 7 women (that you know of???) Obviously, he's lied to you when he cheated - you can not and should not trust what he says.

Sure, he loves you - as long as you will forgive him, when he cheats on you next time. Is that what you want? To be his convenient woman? The one he goes to most of the time, at least when he can't find someone else?

You deserve much better than that - you know you do. If you weren't already realizing that you should leave him, you wouldn't ask.

I'm not saying that that is easy, but you know it's best for you.

If you have trouble, I might suggest finding a Codependents Anonymous group (Yes, this is the voice of experience.) This type of behavior is destructive and harms you. Find a way to get him out of your life and take care of yourself.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

7? that is quite a lot. The question I have is if you found out after all 7 or if you found out and he did it again.

If it was all before you found out, and he has been faithful since, the pain of having to tell someone he says he loves may have convinced him to change. In that case, seek counselling, a church is a good place to go a lot of times, even if you are not religious. From there, can he change, and will he change? That will be shown in counselling, but if he cheated on you with 7 other girls, it is a pattern, not a mistake, and the problem is very deep, and will need A LOT of help.

If you found out and talked about it, and then he did it again, especially if it was a pattern after you found out for the first time, then he obviously has a problem, either he isn't remorseful, or is unable to control himself, either of which are major problems in a relationship. If this is the case, halt the progress of the relationship, until this issue and the resulting loss of trust is dealt with. If there is a problem with trust, than that is THE ONLY problem right now, that is the most important thing. If he has repeatedly cheated on you after you found out the first time, maybe you need to take a break from the relationship. Lay out clearly that you do love him, but his cheating is tearing apart your relationship, and is unacceptable. If you are willing to give him a chance to change, tell him that you will wait to see if he is willing to change, and if he will commit to changing, and he does change, then you can give him a another chance, after he demonstrates that he has changed. Be careful that he doesn't try to act like he changed, to get you back, before he really does. If he is completely open to you about what counselling he is seeking, and the progress he is making, that is the first step to building trus. HOWEVER, if he gets involved with another girl during the "break", he is making a choice not to commit to what in necessary to have a relationship with you.

I believe a person can change, if they choose to, but be careful of someone who is not willing to change, or who will fake a change to get what they want.

Answer 4

you need to take a break from the relationship if he loves you maybe he will clean up his ways and if not at least you can have a clean break from the relationship and move on, no one deserves to be cheated on, i did once and the guilt was enormous, i stopped it after one time we did break up but it was because i didn't want him to be constantly wondering if i was going to again or if it was something wrong with him. you don't need the mental stress or the lies holding you down. you deserve a man that will love you and just you, i don't know you or what you look like but i have strong first impressions and perceptions of people and i believe you are beautiful and can grow from this and be a better person from the entire experience. good luck

Answer 5

Ask yourself " does cheating on you 7 times, feel like Love"? And is that the kind of Love you want?
Girl there is someone else out there that will treat you the way you want to be treated. I hope this is not it!

Answer 6

you should have left him after the first time he cheated on you. I mean c'mon, he cheated on you 7 times? if he really does love you, he wouldn't cheat on you at all. Why are you still with him after he cheated on you 7 times? he knows you'll take him back each time he cheats, so he'll keep on doing it, you should let him hurt you like that. Leave the relationship and find some else who actually loves you and will remain faithful.

Answer 7

You are teaching him how to treat you. He betrayed you 7 times and you took him back each time with the sweet words "I love you". If he really loved you he wouldn't treat you with such contempt and disregard for your feelings. He has learned that there are no consequences for his actions and that if he nags you long enough you will give in. You should start asking yourself why you believe that you deserve this kind of relationship? He will never change. He is also putting you at risk for std's. How many guys did each of those 7 other girls sleep with each. That is the number of people you are putting yourself at risk with. Wake Up and Kick him to the curb. This one is a LOSER!

Answer 8

If you have to ask you already know the answer. As Mom always says Love is only half the battle. A person who loves you wouldn't want to break you heart so you need to do whats best for you and get out of that hazardous situation.

Answer 9

If he really loved you, he would never have cheated on you, especially with 7 other girls.

Actions speak louder than words. All he's showing you is that he doesn't love you and has no respect for you.

Kick his butt to the curb.

Answer 10

He doesn't love you. (sorry, sweetie). What he loves is himself. You deserve way better than that. Don't be afraid to leave him. And search your heart - do you really love him? What's to love about that dog anyway? There are plenty of other guys out there for you. Oh, and make sure to get a real hottie and cheat right back and do it GOOD!!!!!

Answer 11

You're setting yourself up for some real pain in life. If he's cheated on you that many times, he'll never quit, because you allow it by sticking around. Dump him and retain your self respect. There's plenty of other guys to choose from. Don't do this to yourself. Best wishes!