I realize that accidents happen, but, for the most part, pregnancy is controllable. Don't people think about financial considerations, what happens later when they are trapped in an unhappy marriage, overpopulation, etc? Why don't people sit down and think about the big picture before they have kids just because that's what's expected of them?
2006-11-16 03:36:51 · 16 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your parents probably asked themselves that same question everyday.
2006-11-16 03:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by josephinebrooks 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
*Sigh*
If you don't have kids, then what the hell are you complaining for? Be glad you don't have the "burden" of dealing with the consequences of your actions.
Even married couples who don't have kids end up unhappy. You make it seem as though children are the cause of every problem in this world today.
I dont know too many people who "expect" others to have children. It's a choice. It's a choice to use birth control. It's a choice to have sex at all. It shouldn't be an expectation.
2006-11-16 17:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a good question and unfortunately it happens all the time.. A lot of times people think that a baby will bring them together, but what it really does is tear them apart and it brings more hardship on the kid they created!! I'm just thankful that I have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful children!! I considered the consequences and I'm better off b/c of that!!
2006-11-16 11:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, not everyone has a little crystal ball to see what the future will bring!! Nobody out there expects to lose their jobs, marriage failure, or a huge baby boom!! And some people want to have children because they love children. They want a family. It is a part of life that some people out there look forward to. If you don't, then that ok. But us out here who made the choice to have children don't need to answer to you about our reasonings. I never had a child because it was "expected" of me. I am raising her because I WANT TO...because I LOVE HER.....and all the consequences in the world could not make me change my mind. She is here and I am her mother. I will do my best for her no matter what!! And being a single mother at that is one consequence I have already faced. And to me, it is no big deal. I have her and she has me....that's all we need.
2006-11-16 12:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok- as far as the "financial" considerations...if everyone waited until they were "financially" stable enough to have children, then 90% of the earth would never have children...unhappy marriages have nothing to do with the children, that's between the husband and wife, besides- why put your whole life on hold to wait and see if your marriage is gonna work? You'd be waiting forever to have children..thats ridiculous...overpopulation...that's not a concern unless you live in China...
2006-11-16 11:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Amy B 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you,here in italy someone says "it's ok..if you can make it in 2 ,you can even make it in 3 (with one kid) "but this is not my opinion , i'm 31 and i can't afford having a baby ,altough i'm happyly married ,i work monday-friday from 9 to 19pm,i've only my mother,she's not young ,almost 70,and kindergarten are from kids from 4 years up,otherwise they're private and very very expennsive
i cannot allow myself to stop working ,with only my husband's salary it should be impossible to live (1100 euro each month ,and i earn the same) it's sad to put everything on a financial matter but i have to face the truth -this is just my opinion i'd like to share with all of you
marzia from florence,italy
2006-11-16 11:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by elettra3175 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is someone who hasn't had a kid realize what they are getting themselves into? You could only imagine it.
But for better or worse having a child isn't a disease. It's actually one of the main purposes of any creature on the planet to reproduce. To have little ones to love and care for. That's a beautiful thing and I can't imagine it's easy to reason why.
2006-11-16 11:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Alex92081 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the type of person who likes to think things through, but even people like that can't possibly think of every outcome or future situation. Not everything can be planned. Things change, and we don't always have control over it ourselves.
2006-11-16 11:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People get too caught up in the moment instead of thinking about what they are getting themselves into.
2006-11-16 11:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by keri0426 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything happens for a reason....honestly there is never a perfect time to have a child....u never know what could happen in ur life....if ur marriage will fail or if u loose ur job....having my children were the best thing to ever happen to me....i dont think what if....im happy that they are here....and if something happens u get though it and u work harder bc u have ur children.....they make me try harder though life to give them everything i can.....i dont think there is a more beautiful love than with a parent and their child.....
2006-11-16 11:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by girl 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hormones and lack of morals/values.
2006-11-16 11:41:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋