We are currently organizing our wedding party and would like to ask a couple to be in the wedding party however they do not at all get along with one of the ushers. What is the best way to approach the situation ? Should we ask them? This usher has already agreed and he is very close with the groom. Thanks!
2006-11-16 03:35:42 · 11 answers · asked by So Happy!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes by usher i do mean groomsman and no they aren't really accepting of other people, I'm afraid this may cause some rif in our friendship as they feel we should not be friends with this groomsman because of an argument between them and him.
2006-11-16 13:42:47 · update #1
If either party cares about you and you soon to be husband then they should set aside the differences for one night and let it be all about you two. That would be the right thing for them to do. Congratulations.
2006-11-16 03:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by highrange101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the maturity levels of the couple, and the usher. If you think they can put aside their differences for a few hours and be civil to each other in the name of honoring your big day, then by all means invite them. But if you think one or both parties will act up, then don't. Remember, this day is all about YOU, and you shouldn't allow anything to disrupt it or take away from your celebration. If you have any doubts, the safe play is to not ask the couple to be in the wedding. Or you can simply ASK both parties if they think they can put aside their differences and not cause a scene.
2006-11-16 11:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If by an usher you mean the guys who usher people to their seats at the church, ask them, it won't matter.
If you mean groomsman and bridesmaid - that is a different story. You could just ask them, and hope for the best. Why are they not mature about other people, and get along with others just to be polite?
2006-11-16 17:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask them...but let them know about the one person being an usher. Let them make their own decision and tell them that it is okay for them to decline. If they are really you're friends, they will put differences aside and move on with the celebration!
2006-11-16 11:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, ask them. sometimes, even the family of the bride of groom don't get along, but sometimes they have to put aside their issues for the sake of the couple who is getting married.
it isn't their day. it is the couple's day and they better realize that. it's terribly rude to let their selfishness get in the way of a peaceful, smooth wedding day.
2006-11-16 11:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let then know that it is the most important day of your life and it is about the 2 of you getting married NOT THEM. Ask them to put there differences aside and to respect your day.
I am sure they will if you explain how important it is to you.
2006-11-16 12:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask who ever ya want, the parties involved should respect you and put aside their hard feelings. I'd even maybe talk to the parties involved and ask them if they can possibly put aside the issues for your sake.
2006-11-16 11:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask them. They're all adults and should be able to put their differences aside for one day. If they can't, then they can simply decline.
2006-11-16 11:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-11-16 11:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding invite who you wish. ()
2006-11-16 11:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋