Another request to be a bridemaid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My girlfriend has ask me to be in her wedding again......I was in her first did all the duties of a bridesmaid and now she is getting married again. I do not want to hurt her feelings but I do not feel like shelling out all this $$$ again....HELP

Answer 1

When I got married I had a friend call me and tell me that she was just so broke and she felt bad but she just could not afford to be a bridesmaid. Now, my husband and I made the decision to pay for her expenses but if we hadn't decided on that or couldn't have done that it would have been fine for her to miss the wedding. She's my friend and I'll love her no matter what and when you're broke..you're broke...How selfish it would be for me to get mad about something like that. If she's really a good true friend, you should be able to talk to her about this.

Answer 2

Just tell her money is tight right now and you can't afford to be a bridesmaid but thank her for asking. When I got married last year my maid of honor was very tight on cash -- but I really wanted her to be in the wedding so I quietly paid some of her costs without letting the rest of the bridal party know. If I didn't have the money to help her I would not have been upset if she was honest and said she couldn't afford it. Your friend should appreciate your honesty -- maybe offer to help her out if she needs it even though you will not be participating in the wedding.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, if this is her second wedding, it shouldn't be as extravagant as her first one. So you shouldn't have to dish out as much money on a dress and gifts and whatnot. Generally if it's a second marriage, the ceremony should be smaller and the gifts should not be as "luxurious" as her first wedding as she should already have the basics from her first wedding gifts. However, if she wants to make it as big as her first wedding, with a white dress and all, I would simply tell her that you're honoured she asked you again, but perhaps it can be someone else's turn to play the part. If she persists, just explain that you cannot afford to go through all the emotional and financial expenses as you did the first time. Emphasize that you're honoured, but you simply cannot afford it.

Answer 4

ask her to have someone else take over since you were the bridesmaid last time. unless you want to really be in the wedding, try to work something out with the other bridemaids. actually the maid-of-honor- or the matron-of-honor are supposed to take care of fundings. but if not, just let her know maybe she should have someone else experience the fun!

Answer 5

I agree - I would just tell her though you would love to be a part in her special day you're not at a point right now financially where you can commit to the responsiblities fully.
If you are a very close friend to her maybe offer your assistance in other aspects of the wedding that need more attention and time rather then money.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

Okay I think that you will just have to tell her. Say that you love her but right now you can't afford to be her bridesmaid, say that you will of course help her with any plans and anything that she wants you to do, but you just can't afford it. If she gets all huffing which I hope that she won't tell her that its not as if you won't be there for her, but you just can't do it financially

As she is your friend and you were a bridesmaid last time hopefully she will understand

Answer 7

Tell her nicely that at this time you cannot afford to be in her wedding but you would be more than happy to attend the wedding as a source of support and give her a gift. I am sure that she will understand.

Answer 8

Tell her that you are honored she chose you again, but you can't afford the costs of being a bridesmaid. She will understand.

Answer 9

Ok, this is not that hard, trust me! Tell her you are honored that she's asked you again, & you'd love to be a part of her special day, but you just can't afford it right now. She'll understand!

Answer 10

if I was in your shoes, since I know how much it costs to be the maid of Honor, I would tell her your honoured that she would pick you again and great full, but maybe give someone else the wonderful pleasure, or you can just tell her you'd love too, but your not financially ready for it.