He says he was just checking it out. But he posted his photo and gave his regular e-mail as a contact address. He also specified he was looking for a milf/older woman, we're 23. He put this up 2 days ago. What do you think? I have to dump the dumbass right? the retard used our shared computer to do it and didn't even think to delete the history. We've been together or a year (this week!) and I let slide a couple of suspicious things in past. Time to cut my losses and move on? Or explainable curiousity?
2006-11-16 03:22:24 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's moved on already, he just forgot to tell you.
2006-11-16 03:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gorilla 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no way don't just dump him . that's stupid. talk to him about this .
find out what he is really wanting is there something you and him don't do in the bedroom that he wants. he might think your just too pure to ask for this sort of thing.
you and him might not be having sex as often or as wild as he likes . are you a dead fish in the bed? if so learn to fix that or the next guy and every other guy will end up looking elsewhere for great sex.
don't talk about this in a serious confrontation way instead talk about in bed while you are both worked up and feeling like talking about different desires. you might find that both you and him have been wanting the same things but just both been scarred to mention it .
that is what you should do and forget the others who say dump him that will solve nothing but instead leave you wondering what it is about you that caused this and you will wonder for the rest of your life if the guys really do think your great in bed or are they just being nice. you don't want that.
now if he has idea's that after a couple of weeks of thinking about you just cant see yourself ever doing then explain this to him and then see if breaking up is the answer . no sense spending a year or so working on something ie this relationship just to end up with a life long worry about your sex life.
2006-11-19 04:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be worth the effort you will need to let him know that you """know""" what he is and has been doing. You will need all your strength to confront him on his discretion's. Now! Can you say to yourself that you are "in love" with him. If it's Yes!
Then let him know everything. He will deny most and lie about the rest of it. He may even try having you think you are only seeing what you want and not what is really there. But you know better. Then you have to be willing to spend a lot of time, and effort, working hard to keep what you want and it will be hard emotionally and it will take it's toll on your physically.
SO, YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT IT IS WHAT YOU WANT 100%
You can't say you are 100%. You mentioned you let slide a couple incidents, so you already had some idea that there may have been something going on. Your young, as you put it "cut your losses" and move on.
2006-11-16 09:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by bmfb4114 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not explainable curiousity. If he is doing this now, he will continue to do it in the future and if he is curious enough to actually put his photo up he is seriously looking. Seeing as this is not the first suspicious thing you have run across, cut your losses now and move on.
2006-11-16 03:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to even the score and regain some dignity, answer his add, and set up a meeting place. Let him show up there and be in another part of the resteraunt with a friend. Act all surprized to see him and have you and your friend join his table like nothing's going on. He'll be so nervous he'll probably crap himself.
Enjoy a nice casual lunch (order pricey), then look him dead in the eye and drop the bomb - and leave him the bill.
Don't think of it as losing a boyfriend, think of it as gaining a story you'll be telling for the rest of your life! Payback's a *****!
Good luck.
2006-11-16 03:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by stargazerjimbo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure. I do sometimes join "dating" sites just for curiosity or to browse pics profiles but i never talk to people.
In his profile did he actually write milf/older woman or was that in a drop-down box? Did he put things in his profile- like a paragraph about what he was looking for?
You could always join the site too with a different photo and chat to him on there to find out stuff
2006-11-16 03:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's time to leave. I've been here before. Only, it was her looking. Funny thing was that, I'm not the jealous type so, I let stuff slide. I was engaged, so I figured we were committed to each other. This was not the case and she got caught. Email or IM me for details. It's a sure fire way to really find out if he's using that site or not
2006-11-16 03:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Stick'em in the Trunk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him what he is missing and then send him nude pics to his email on that site and get his attention and tell him that you will do a threesome if he puts you on with him on the site.
That should keep him honest and happy :)
Now if you do not love him or are not happy then just move on. But if you do love him then you should be willing to try to make him and you both happy with exploring sexual adventures together.
2006-11-16 03:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by hotredhead2655 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell, slap him and move on....what a jerk yeah maybe it's curiousity but it a curiosity to **** someone else it's not like trying a new after shave or flavor of ice cream he wants to try other woman and hence not ready to settle down yet.
2006-11-16 03:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy did the same thing a week ago and we have been together for a yr an a half...honestly just yell, scream, rant and rave,,just to make him feel super horrible....then dont let him out of ur sight 4 a while.. and dont let him on the computer 4 a while either...then c how he acts..if theres no improvement...then get rid of him...o and if he has a cell check that 2
2006-11-16 03:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by nawti696 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it isnt an accident that's for sure. Sounds like he's in the market for a new girl to me. I'd drop him for sure. What a creep. Its like he wanted you to find it and knew you would, like then you break up and he doesnt have to do the dirty work, leaving him free and clear which is probably what he wants(guess he could want to have his cake and eat it too). Ask but be prepared for some odd story or weird coincidence. What I would do is make your own account and contact him as if you didnt know him. See what happens.
2006-11-16 03:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋