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Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has just gotten a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf. Whatever your answer, please say why, as I am trying to work it out.

Answer 1

Hey I was once 15, also mature and I know when I started hanging on to my best Friend, a guy, and hugging him it was because I was afraid of other guys I dated. With him I felt safe, no sex pressure. We also found out he was the right one for me, and I for him. He did like you are doing he waited until I broke-up with a guy and told me his feelings. Everything worked out great. I hope every thing turns out well for you. I think she really wants to be with you and her hugging you is her way of letting you know she wants you to save her from all the other jerks. You are her knight in shinning armor. Treat her like your damsel in distress and she'll love you forever.

Answer 2

You are in the friend zone and she feels comfortable with you. She values your friendship and feels secure with you. If you like her then you should tell her how you feel. She might like you back or not, but if she valued your friendship she will let you down easy and remain your friend. Or she will be your GF. But then you will break up in a few months when she/you has a crush on someone else. You are 15, stop stressing about girls and go out side and play. Wait until you are in/out of college to let girls worry you this much. Have fun and enjoy your teen years.

Answer 3

Okay, so I just went through this same thing. I'm a girl (16) and I fell for my best guy friend and he was totally leading me on. (Telling me he always loves me, lots of hugs, piggyback rides, calling me 'dear') So i told him i liked him and he didn't feel the same way. Cuz apparently he likes another girl.

So advice someone gave me, but i probobly should've followed, but didn't: Don't do anything. she knows she has you, you are like her "unofficial boyfriend" as is she your "unofficial girlfriend". She knows you will always be there for her. But she just wants someone else, because you will always be there for her. So yeah, just don't do anything, and continue having fun. Because you might end up with a broken heart like me. We are still best friends, but it's a little different because it hurts that he doesn't feel the same way. So good luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

There are a few different reasons.

Maybe, she always liked you but was afraid to tell you. Now that she has a boyfriend she has realised just how much she likes you but is afraid to hurt her bf's feelings.

Maybe she is just one of those people who always wants what they can't have. Now that she has a boyfriend she can't have anyone else.

Maybe she can see how much you like her and she is regretting staying with someone else.

Maybe you should tell her how you feel or if you can't do that, ask her if shes happy with her bf. Drop hints. Maybe it will tempt her to leave him

Answer 5

First of all she might not want to lose your friendship so she may be trying to comfort you in any way possible, but that is kind of odd. Let me tell you what I did. I talk to him in private and I found he had feelings for me too. No we're not together, but we are still friends and that's the most important thing.

Answer 6

well, if she is a "good girl" then she likes you. if she has a history of this, then she is just a flirt. you have to be carefull about that, because it is very tricky to recognize the diff. DO NOT wait for anything!!! tell her now. that is how you will know if she really likes you. if she does, then she will get rid of the guy for you. she could be using him to make you jealous or something. girls that age also have a tendency of going out with someone just to have someone to go out with. so tell her now!!!!! go for it man!!!!!! the only way you'll never know is if you never try. and trust me, never knowin what could've been really bites!!! so jump for it!!!!! \
good luck

Answer 7

sounds to me like one of two things are happening here: either she really don't know what she wants and having her family intervene in her relationship with you or that there is a serious problem with her that she is afraid to or don't know how to say it to you because she loves you to much to place her problems on you. Just take a walk with her and talk about something that she wants to talk about and sometimes that helps the person in need say what is on their mind that is bothering them.

Answer 8

Females have a need to feel wanted. I think she's prbably just rying to make her bf jealous. Girls are weird. Or maybe she fels the same way about you and didn't realize it untill she got witht this guy.

Answer 9

Since you two are best friends you should ask her what is up. Say that you're confused by her behavior. State to her that you like it but it makes you uncomfortable since she does have a bf and that you two are bestfriends.

Communicate with her.

Best of luck.

Answer 10

She might be weighing her options but doesn't want to lose you. You need to show that you are always there for her. And hugging is not a bad thing at all. Keep doing it.