My boyfriend has an undeniable substance abuse problem. It has only recently began affecting our relationship. How do I suggest to him that he needs help with this without sounding like the nagging girlfriend?
2006-11-16 03:01:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't .....He has to be the one to figure out he has a problem..You will be the nagging girlfreind no matter what you do......So don't bother..You can suggest things to him but until he realizes that yes he has a problem there isn't much you can do for him
2006-11-16 03:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To an addict you will always sound nagging and there is no way to get around it. The best way is to be firm and give him an ultimatum. You should not put yourself through that and if he loves you and values your relationship then he will get help. Sorry, you can't sugar coat this. If it continues then your relationship will end anyway so don't waist any time and be tuff with him.
2006-11-16 03:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being the nagging girlfriend----Leave him.Listen I know one thing for sure,when you have put up with that behavior at all, they will never stop.Excessive behavior should not be tolerated.Get ready to hear him tell you "you always knew I used"He will try to shut you up that way..Be careful, but take care of your self first.
2006-11-16 03:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are really worried about him and say you dont want to sound like the nagging girlfriend but you love him and want him to be happy. be honest and good luck!...
2006-11-16 03:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do all the suggesting you want to do ...and too him it will sound like your nagging.... but on the real he has to want to stop, thats his decision ... your decision is do you either want to stay in the relationship or not?
2006-11-16 03:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay!
Either you simply ask him to stop, tell him you dont want to see him hurt himself. More than likely he will no stop, or act like he stoped and do it when you dont know about it.
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You should just break it off with him for real !!!!! Because thats trouble down the road. And if he wont change for himself, he most deffly isnt going to stop for you. Trust me!
2006-11-16 03:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask if he loves you (i would hope this isn't normaly a question)...
when (we hope) he says yes, he does... ask why he's risking your life. he's going to be confused as hell... i think that'll be a good place to start... don't get him mad at all, keep him a little off balanced though...
personally, if i was with some one and discovered that they had a drug problem, i'd tell them flat out, right as i find out, that i would not be in a relationship with a drug addict. it goes, or i do. but that's me...
2006-11-16 03:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join him you might like it you nagging whore
2006-11-16 03:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋