He seems to be frustrated all the time. I have tried time out chairs, the corner and simply ignoring the behaviour. Nothing is working. He is too young to reason with. I need some helpful tips. Please!!!!
2006-11-16 02:49:01 · 9 answers · asked by beentheredonethat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Lack of consistency in how you handle the behavior may be part of the problem. You have to be cool, calm, and consistent. Two of our daughters have two year olds, and we have seen them struggle with similar issues.
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2006-11-16 03:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You would be surprise what a child at that age understands. The most important thing to do is go down to his level. If you just stand over him or pick him up to you he will tune you out. Get down on your knees and look him directly in the eye. Gently take hold of his hands so he cant hit. In a quiet but firm tone tell him NO. Keep eye contact and repeat no again. Then get up and act like nothing happened. If he does it again repeat above process but then put him in his high chair and leave the room (make sure you can still monitor him) Leave him there for only 1-1.5 minutes no matter how much he screams. This should help him understand that you will not tolerate this behavior. Also try to find out where he picked up this behavior from. If it is another child notify their parents as well and try to monitor his time with that child closer as he may pick up even worse or more dangerous habits from this child. Good Luck
2006-11-16 05:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 months is NOT too young to reason with at all. While they dont retain information for long periods of time, their behavior can be molded by CONSISTANCY.
You need to explain to him when he's acting this way that you cant understand him or help him until he uses words to explain whats wrong. Even one word at this age, and for a boy is acceptable at this point. Although in a few months you should be able to get atleast 3 words for an explaination.
If he wants to continue throwing a fit he can go on time out, or to his room, or get a spanking, or however you prefer to punish him. BUt keep the punishment the same EACH TIME.
Remind him when he misbehaves of how he should act, but punish him when he misbehaves. Toddlers do require atleast one reminder, not more, not less, before theyre punished.
If you dont start communicating and holding him accountable for what he learns now, you're going ot have an impossible toddler and preschooler to deal with.
You need to remain consistant, every single time without failing. He hits or spits, he gets in trouble, the same punishment every time. He can use words instead of actions, and you need to hold him accountable for that.
2006-11-16 02:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 21 months today and I understand what you are going through. At this age its basically like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. He's too young for major discpling just try telling him NO and let him throw those tantrums at home in a room by himself (where he couldn't get hurt like the crib or a playpen) my daughter acts like that in public I just let her be and tell people hey she's one what can I do
2006-11-16 02:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by babygyrl11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife went through the same trouble with a child at a similar age, at first he did it only when I was alone with him, and I always tried to appease him. The first time he tried it with my wife, she turned around, grabbed a cup of cold water and poured it over him.
He was so shocked, he stopped for a good while before he started screaming his head off, which was totally ignored by both of us.
He never did it again.
2006-11-16 03:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timeout means time-out. if your having a problem someone is giving in to the childso they get away with it. You or your spouse and remember sometimes they do things like this for attention, if your not with the child then who ever is watchign them is not ginvg them the right amount of attention or positivness needed.What is the childing getting out of time out? Attention or hugs and love, that is what they want more of.
2006-11-16 02:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG - I am lucky in the fact that none of my children ever did this - He needs to learn that this is unacceptable, but how?? hmmm. obviously you cannot bite him back or gob on him!!! - maybe a sharp "NO"
2006-11-16 02:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by nickynoodles33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be consistent. Since you're doing time out keep at it. It won't work if you don't keep at it.
2006-11-18 15:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is you have tried everything chose one and stick to your guns
2006-11-16 02:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋