I've been in the Navy for near 10 years now. Have gone away several times, for long periods. Back when I was 20, I was engaged to the girl of my dreams. Happily ever-after. But 3 months into deployment, got my "dear john" and that was over. Well now its 8 years later. I've tried to have relationships with other women, but I keep ranking them against her. So either my relationships are short or just one nighters. Got any tips to let the "the one" go, so I can give others a chance?
2006-11-16 02:44:50 · 13 answers · asked by RebelSquid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what... I read romantic novels and there's always this guy who can't connect with any women because he is hung over a dead wife or an ex who broke his heart, He went through alot of women, when this girl pops out of no where and BAM!!!!! he can't stop wanting her and BAM!!!! his ex in his thoughts are gone. So, I guess it's all patients. Maybe one day you'll meet a girl who gets on your nerves and the only thing you can think of is to have her in every possible way. Sorry, I still believe in night in shining armors... Good luck
2006-11-16 02:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain There is no easy cure for this I think its best to put her love in a place as far back in your mind as you can , conclude that you most likely always have a special place for her and that you all ways will. Think that perhaps things will be corrected in maybe a future life if that's part of your belief system and seek out some professional help to see if they can find ways to work threw this hart wrenching time in your life , Don't try to ignore it you have to do your best to live your life and asking for help is nothing to fear . Look what you face every day , When I think of my own similar situation It helps to realize that if this is the worst thing to happen in my lifetime God has a reason for it and from that I take strength. God bless you and stay safe , Dan from Milwaukee
2006-11-16 10:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by danngazz67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, i am very sorry to hear about what happened to you and your fiancee, im sure that was really hard. I have a couple guy friends in the Marines so i know of these situations. If this girl was the girl of your dreams and you loved her with all your heart, then she probably had every quality you would want in a girlfriend/wife and everything about her was perfect to you. Unfortunatly things didnt work out with her so you do need to let her as a person go, but everything about her you dont have to let go, if she was a dream come true, then as much time and effort as it would take, find someone else that would make you just as happy and be just as perfect in your eyes, you dont have to let go of the perfect qualities and things about a women that would make you the happiest, there are plenty of women out there and i truly believe there is someone for everyone, you just have to be patient and give it time, she will come alone sooner or later. You cant cheat yourself, if you know what you want in a girlfriend/wife then dont settle for less just because you want someone now, everyone deserves to find "the one" and just because things didnt work out with your ex-fiancee doesnt mean you cant find true happiness and the girl of your dreams in someone else. Someone will come along that supports you and everything you do and will love you for who you are and everything about you just like you do to them. Take your time, dont settle for less than you deserve and good luck!!!
2006-11-16 10:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by emg2528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 when I lost my first love. It is very hard to let go. I went out and had fun with my friends. I waited 1 year to have sex. I just pushed him out of my mind. It has been five years. He is married to a whore and it makes me fill better to see him, now that he is living in hell with her. The best thing you can do is start off slow and get to know a person before you jump into a relationship.
2006-11-16 11:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by luvtohateyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Not easy getting over someone your in love with even if it was 10 years ago....Just know that she wasn't the right women for you and that there is a wonderful person out there looking for you as you are for her...I wish you luck....
2006-11-16 10:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats good you do that because when you meet the right one again, you will stop comparing.. just think as the others as warm ups shes out there...just give it some time.. also when your in the military it is very hard for relationships.. women cant take the heat.... maybe find a girl in the military that understands..
good luck
and thanks for serving my country.
2006-11-16 10:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by diamondg4u2c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, dude wake up.... You've spent all this time pining over nothing. She moved on...it's only fair that you do the same. Ask youself, "why do you want someone when you know for fact they 'don't want you'. And until you fix yourself...stop messing with women's heads! It's not fair to us!
2006-11-16 10:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get this person out of your mind..Why hang onto thoughts of her when she obviously didn't want you...Comparing one relationship with another is not a good thing...Start now and don't compare them to her ...she isn't that much of a find if you ask me...So why compare anyone you are dating with to her?..That is so unfair of you
2006-11-16 10:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u ever went fishing and had to throw them back in the water?? u just havent caught the right one yet
2006-11-16 10:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just joined your club, I'm in the military as well.
2006-11-16 10:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by mickeys12 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋