what it bother you if your mate kept in contact with ex-girlfriend/ex boyfriend and why or why not?

Answer 1

If my mate kept contact with his ex-girlfriend it whether or not it would bother me depends on what type of friendship they had and what reason were they keeping in contact for. If he was honest with me and told me they were now just friends and that he valued her opinion in many things no, it would not bother me. It would also be okay if he told me they were to have lunch together once in a while, as long as he took me along with them or even if he was just honest without taking me along I wouldn't be upset. But if he calls her sneakily and tries to lie to me about the type of relationship that they have together and tries to sneak around just to be with her, than yes that would bother me.

Jealousy comes from insecurity, which is why I try my best not to overreact or make myself appear jealous when there is nothing to be jealous over. A male and a female can have a strictly platonic relationship as long as he/she agree to do so in those terms.

I broke up with my ex almost three years ago and we still keep in touch. Even if he were to fall in love and marry someone else I would still want to know and still want to be a part of his life likewise with him, because we means so much to each other.

Answer 2

It depends on why they are keeping in contact. If he is her baby's father it would be cool with me. However, if there is any other reason like just to be friends, I would tell her to make a choice. Because every man in the world know there is no such thing as a Platonic Relationship between a man in a woman. And most men think like me, I can sleep with any Ex-girlfriend I ever had if I have time to talk to her alone.

P.S: Some people consider that cheating rather they sleep together or not. Any amount of time you spend with another woman is time you are saying you would rather be with her than your current girlfriend.

Answer 3

Yes. My fiance and I had this issue. He kept in contact with his ex-girlfriend which, normally I'd be somewhat ok on. The problem is, does the ex still have feelings for your new gf/bf. In his case, she is still trying to get back with him and that's not ok. When its that case, its like things are going on behind your back and its hard to trust the other person. Generally speaking, they're your ex for a reason so if you've moved onto someone new, why do you still need them calling or hanging around?

Answer 4

It's normal for married ex's to stay in contact if children are involved, but for your honey to be in contact with ex's is bullsh*t!!

Your suppose to be finished with the last one, before moving on to a new one!

There's too many problems that are dragged into the new relationship, unless some are sick enough in the head to think other wise.

Answer 5

Some people ar e just meant to be friends. But at the same time if they talk on the phone for hours and hangout way more than friends do, then that's when you should be concern. Other than that, if you trust her and she trusts you then there's no need to worry. As long as you communicate then it's all good.

Answer 6

depends on who it is and why i mean i still keep in contact with one or two of my ex's but my boyfriend has met them and he knoes i wouldnt do ne thing to cheat on him so i dont think he minds but also we onle talk once in a blue moon i think it would bother me if my man would talk to his ex all da time unless i knoe the deal just like he does

Answer 7

No, it wouldn't bother me in general. People can realize they were meant to be just friends.

Answer 8

IT DEPENDS WHAT TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP THEY HAD...i WOULD NOT LET THEM HAVE TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER...IF YOU TRUST THE ONE YOU ARE WITH, THEN IT'S OK. BUT IF YOU HAVE A FEAR, THEN LET YOUR MATE KNOW BUT DON'T SOUND TOO JEALOUS B/C SHE'LL THINK THAT YOU ARE...