does this change your opinion on how Muslims husbands treat their wives?

Question

The following is a summary of the book "How to make your wife happy by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.

Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you:

Begin with a good greeting.
Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a du'aa for her as well.
Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!
Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations
Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.
Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.
Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.
Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc.
Friendliness and Recreation
Spend time talking together.
Spread to her goods news.
Remember your good memories together.
Games and Distractions
Joking around & having a sense of humor.
Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.

Intercourse
It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse (sickness, etc.)
Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic du'a.
Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus).
Begin with foreplay including words of love.
Continue until you have satisfied her desire.
Relax and joke around afterwards.
Avoid intercourse during the monthly period because it haram
Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking your clothes together instead of asking her to do it first while he is looking on.
Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting pressure on her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are heavy.
Choose suitable times for intercourse and be considerate as sometimes she maybe sick or exhausted.

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Answer 1

That's how a Muslim husband should treat his wife. Look at the point that that's what Islam wants from a Muslim husband. If some fail to do this because of ignorance or whatever, they will just fall into his mistake. Islam doesn't teach oppression.

Answer 2

I think it all dwepends on the husband and wife, and the country they are in to some extent. Westerners have a hard time judging as it is so different for women who are from there or don't understand the way of life- true Muslims are not violent or mean and I wish they would be more aggressive toward those that give them a bad name!

Answer 3

Intercourse
It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse (sickness, etc.)

So, Islam BELEIVES a WIFE HAS TO "PUT OUT" all the time, very interesting.

All GIRLS who consider converting should be aware of this. ISLAM DEMANDS you do the deed.

Remember, lying is going against Islam and all other religions so when you say you're sick, you better really be sick!

Answer 4

To baby, dont misinterpret the Quraan, you dont even have enough knowledge to know the correct name of our holy book, let alone tell us who unlike most religious groups, actually try to learn and understand it. A man is allowed to tap not beat his wife with a miswaak which is a small light twig used to cleaning the teeth. He is to do this to call to her attention. To that person who said that Islam does not treat its women as equals this is absolutely false, we believe in equality NOT sameness. We believe that a woman and man are equal and that they play different roles in society. Islam differentiates between men and women. To that person who said that in places like Afghanistan treat their women as inferiors ask Yvonne Ridely, a journalist who was captured by the Afghans. As soon as she stepped back into the real world as you may call it she realised that those afghanistani men treat their women with more dignity then men in the western world. Go look her up, read her book, you would realise the truth. Dont allow yourselves to be blinded into a narrow minded way of thinking. You are the creation of the media. It is apparent that half of you cant think for your selves. There is an entire chapter in the Quraan dedicated to women.

In the prophet Muhammed peace be upon hims last sermon the prophet says: People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers"

So dont blame Islam for what some muslim men may do, dont blame islam for the actions of us muslims. Do we blame Christianity if a Christian rapes a women, or Hindusim if a Hindu kills someone or Judaism if a JJew is a drug lord? or any other religion for what the people belonging to that faith do?

Answer 5

In a way it does. In every culture/religion/ethinicity there are good and bad. There are wonderful Muslim husbands just as there are probably some bad ones.
It works the same with American husbands. I know of some Class-A awesome husbands but, I also know some of the worst.
I think the book is a good one and I think the man that wrote it is a good husband who has a good idea of how to treat his wife.

Answer 6

Does the Koran teach a wife can beat her husband?
The Koran definitely tells the husbands to beat the wives. If it can't be reciprocated, all other claims you make to whitewash the ugly scars are totally baseless, unwarranted and utter nonsense.
More over, it isn't any book that brings a good relationship between a husband and a wife, but their ability to understand each other and the realisation that both are equal and have equal responsibility in maintaining their family.

Answer 7

Obligatory habitual sex until she is satisfied over and over and my tongue rolls right out of my head. OK, I guess I can do that, I hope.

Answer 8

i have no opinion to distort or hold on to
i believe it is the way the islamic countries (afghanistan for instance) have treated their WOMEN, not wives, that has attracted bad publicity for your religion

peace

Answer 9

We've been through this before.

When they are treated as equals (by 'good' Muslims) and not like a rare flower or a Persian Cat then we can start talking.

Answer 10

Well, seems like a good thing, ma'am.

However, I must say that I didn't know that the Muslims had to refer to the Koran even for these things. Thanks for enlightening us.

Have a nice day.