I've been dating this guy for awhile, but I've been too embarrassed to tell him that I've been taking ephedrine pills for the longest time after I started modeling. I don't model anymore, but I'm still taking them. If I tell him my problem, will he think I'm insecure even though I always showed him how confident I was? He's also moved recently (not too far) because of a job, so will he think it's too much for him to handle helping me without being with me physically? We're also planning a trip next March, but still not for sure yet, should I wait or tell him now? Would that make meeting again awkward or make us feel more connected?
2006-11-16 02:18:06 · 18 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of, not to lecture but do you know how dangerous ephedrine is? There was a model that died a couple of years ago from taking it.
Second, be honest with him, a real relationship is about support and realizing and overlooking the other persons weaknesses.
2006-11-16 02:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, and yes, you should tell him because if you are to have a true, honest, and loving relationship, there should be no secrets between the two of you.
The biggest part to this question is not how he will react to the news, but is the fact that you have an addiction and need to seek help to deal with it. This could become an even greater problem leading to anorexia or bulemmia (sp?). This is not something you should wait on. Get help as soon as possible.
I am sure you are quite beautiful, and know deep inside that you do not need to take pills to be so. Your true beauty is what is inside you anyway, not what people see outside. If a person judges you on what they see on the outside, then they truly are not worth your time,
If your boyfriend cares, and I get the feeling he does, he will understand and support you while you get the help and counselling you need to overcome this. Please, talk to your doctor soon and explain the problem so that he or she can send you in teh right direction to get the help you need.
Peace and love
2006-11-16 10:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should always be honest. Do you think that you can stop the ephedrine alone? You cant hon. It is a problem that you should consult your Dr. about. Believe me he or she can help you. There are many people that have gone through the same thing. Ephedrine is a dangerous drug. It taxes your heart a great deal. Please talk to your Dr first and then your date. He will feel much better knowing that you are taking responsibility for this and wanting to overcome it. As you will. I commend you for asking this. I know it had to be tough. Make that appointment as soon as possible. And remember your Dr. will not tell anyone. Only those who can help you if he or she feels is necessary. Good luck to you. You can do this.
2006-11-16 10:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you should really try to stop taking ephedrine pills, you are really hurting yourself. If you are dating this guy and you really care for him then I think you should let him know, if he cares for you then he should understand and try to help you get through it. You may also see a doctor if it is something you think it will be hard to stop. Don't be scared to tell him, whether he is not there physically I'm sure the words and the love he gives you over the phone will make you feel even better. Take Care
2006-11-16 10:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, as a member of a twelve step program, I can assure you that you have an advantage over the vast majority of people in the world. At least you know what your problem is, and seem willing to do something about it. I suggest going to the twelve step meetings of your choice. Then you'll be able to tell him of your former problem open and honestly.
Also, you are not the only one ever to have this problem (or there wouldn't be a name for it) and somewhere down the road you may get a chance to help another with this same problem.
2006-11-16 10:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what type of guy he is... more important you need to get off the pills, maybe see a doctor and get help, those pills were pulled off the market awhile back in most states, some let them come back, I hope you realize they are mini cross-tops, a drug, if you take a urine test you will test positive for drugs. They mess with your metabolism and you will be lucky if they didn't mess your system up to the point if you aren't on them your metabolism is slow and you gain weight. Girl get help (speaking from experience) The guy if he is worth it will be there for you, and if he truly cares he will tell you to get off the pills or take a hike because he cares enough about you to not support a dangerous and potentially harmful habit. No one wants to see someone they love hit rock bottom.
Good Luck!
2006-11-16 10:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking to have a serious relationship with this guy then he needs to know. Its part of you and he needs to want all of you, not just the parts he likes.
Its a serious addiction that you need help with to get rid of. Those pills can have incredibly bad side effects for your body.
If he's the kind of guy that's worth having around, he should help you with your problem, not leave you because of it.
2006-11-16 10:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the base of a relationship, if you are not totally honest with her, you are never gonig to be totally comfortable. If he really wants you, he will try to understand and will care about you. If he just runs out, that is the way you find out he isn't the man you tought he was... and that doesn't really want you.
Tell him, he might help you with your problem if he wants you
2006-11-16 10:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetlovelygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cant be helped until they admit to having a problem u obviously do have a problem and want him to know about it tell him sooner rather than later he wont think any less of u if he really likes u
2006-11-16 10:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Zoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better to be open up front that have him think you are a liar if he finds out later. If the trust is gone then it's hard to get back. And if he really cares he will try to help not judge.
2006-11-16 10:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋