Do you think age gap really matters. We are so madly in love and and are now engaged and I don't feel the age difference as we are so good together. We play, joke, laugh together etc. He is so fit and Im worried about people judging us. Heeeeeeeelp!
2006-11-16 02:03:22 · 76 answers · asked by miss cool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
age aint nothing but a number, there is a 16 year difference between my husband and i.
2006-11-16 02:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by yensenm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as the two of you are happy together, that's all that matters. A lot of couples have a ten year or more age difference. My good friend is married to a guy who is 11 years older than she is, and they're doing well. Also, my mom is dating a guy who is 12 years older than she is, although she's 50 and he's 62, so it probably doesn't matter as much when you get older. I think the important question is whether you have the same life goals and ambitions and stuff. One of the major problems with dating someone 10 years older than you is that you might want different things. For example, a guy in his thirties might want to get married and start a family before his partner in her twenties is maybe ready for all that. Or, on the flip side, he might already have kids from a previous marriage and not want to go through all that again, and the younger partner might get cheated out of those experiences. But if the two of you have no such issues, then there shouldn't be any problems at all.
Of course, there will be people who judge you about it, but you know what? People will ALWAYS find something to judge you on. They'll judge you if you date someone from a different race, someone of the same sex, someone from a different religion, someone older, someone younger- I get judged because my boyfriend and I lilve together and have been together for over 4 years and have absolutely no plans to get married anytime soon. I think that once you find love, you just hold on to it and tell everyone who has something to say to just bugger off. Chances are they're just jealous anyway. Good luck to you!!
2006-11-16 02:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that the age gap makes a difference.. Now, ten years ago, when you were 14 and he was 24 it would've, but you are now an adult and have enough life experience and maturity to make your own decisions.. My mate is 8 years older than me and of another "race" and we too get along remarkably, so what others think really has no effect on our relationship or our own feelings... My parents were also 8 years separated in age... You have to remember, they say a woman matures 3 years faster than a man, so often, we are more comfortable in relating to men who are older than us.. Men our age are often less mature, less responsible and less responsive than what we are ready for or looking for... As long as you're happy together, then other people judging you doesn't matter... Genuine happiness and love are often hard to come by, so cherish it always, live in the moment.. Misery loves company and jealous people are always envious... Enjoy each other and F*ck everyone else (not literally, of course) ... ; )
2006-11-16 02:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not an issue to you and your fiance, then it shouldn't matter what other people think. That being said, yes,the age gap does matter to people and you have to take that into account. There will always be someone who disapproves (regardless of the situation) so just take it in stride.
The big worry people have is that it wont last due to the difference in experiances. The younger person hasn't had the time or life experiances the other has and that can be a hard bit to overcome. It makes people nervous because they don't understand that you can still be so similar while still being different.
Bottom line- if it doesn't bother you and it doesn't bother your partner, what does itmatter what they think? Ever hear "Love is blind'?
2006-11-16 02:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is pretty much the upper limit, as you will find over time.
My husband is 10 years older than me; when we got married I was 28 and he was 38. We are married over 17 years, and are more in love (and lust) than ever! Life is wonderful!
People do judge a bit, but not much, as it really is not that drastic an age difference. However, the age gap becomes more noticeable as you grow older. I am now a young 45 and he is an older 55.
I wish you luck and love and do what makes you happy!
2006-11-16 09:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the age gap. It doesn't matter what people think. You are happy, very much in love and are going to get married. Congratulations!!
Yes, people may judge you. Let them. It really doesn't matter. Your age gap isn't that big anyway. There are 16 years between me and my fella and I wouldn't swap him for anything!
Concentrate on your relationship, your future together. Life is too short to worry about what other people think.
May all your dreams come true!
2006-11-16 02:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is to stop worrying about people judging you!!
I don't think that the age idfference is a big deal. the two of you are adults. I would feel differently if you told me you were 15 and he was 25 or something similar, but the two of you are adults.
If you two work, and you love each other. Get married and enjoy life!!! It's too short to worry about a ten year age difference. When you're 60 and he's 70 is anyone even gonna notice??
Good luck!!
2006-11-16 02:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's great. The only problem will be when you turn 34, and he is complaining of aching bones.LOL It is really difficult, if you are honest with yourself, to imagine what you have in common with this man. And if you are asking questions on here, obviously, you have concerns, otherwise you wouldn't care what people thought. I am just saying, think about it. Years ago, people did that all the time, but that was because they couldn't get anywhere to meet anyone their own age. When he was 24 years old, you were a freshman in high school, so why is he trying to be with someone so young. Sex? Seriously, be careful. And if you don't feel the age difference, you will.
2006-11-16 02:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yours isn't a very large age "gap" at all. I know many couples whos age difference is anywhere from 8 to 10 years, it's very common. What matters more is the maturity level, and you'll have to be the judge of that.
2006-11-16 05:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're in a relationship made from fairy-tales. Engaged, happy, fit. The only people who'll have a problem with the age gap are people jealous of what you have. Pay no attention, enjoy what you have, and dont take it for granted. You're clearly a very lucky gal! All the best for the future ;-) x
2006-11-16 02:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 9 years older than me, we have never had a problem with agists, 10 years is not a massive age gap we have been married for 12 years and are still happy. No body has ever pointed out the age difference to us its not like your partner is 30 years older
2006-11-16 02:06:36 · answer #11 · answered by ANGELA R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋