Sympathetic Ear- Doormat Dear?

Question

I recently became friends again with an ex boyfriend. We dated about 12 years ago when we were in HS. Over the past several months we've been hanging out/ couple dates and doing stuff together. About a month ago he started picking unnecessary fights with me and being a real jerk. So we kinda cooled it. A couple of days ago we were on the phone and he told me that someone in his family is really sick and it is pretty touch and go. I tried to be sympathetic but people deal with grief in there own way. He and I have not been on the same page for awhile now but I really care for him and want to be back with him. I totally empathize what he is going through but I think if I try to be "there for him" it may just end up being just that and once the grief passes I'm emotionally drained and he is gone. (i.e. the doormat) Should I just back off and let him come to me if he wants or is there some way I can be there w/ out sacrificing myself in his grief.

Answer 1

I would just let him know that you are there for him if he needs you or would like to talk. Sometimes space is a good thing. Let him come to you if he wants. Good luck!

Answer 2

Let him go. I gave my first husband numerous chances prior to marriage. Every conflict we had seemed easily explained by tough circumstances, so I excused our problems and his behavior. After 3 years of miserable marriage, he announced he wanted a divorce. The conflicts we had and behaviors he exhibited never went away. I learned, the hard way, tough times show a person's true character. Find someone who knows how to be respectful no matter what the circumstances.

Answer 3

YEAH let him come to you if he wants to talk .

Answer 4

yes let him come to u if he dont it was not meant to be